Why would we embrace fear? Do we really?
I don’t believe we do this intentionally. I think most of us would even deny doing it. But it is there, it’s real.
Have a look around you, look at the people surrounding you.
And if you are feeling very brave, have a look in the mirror too.
Look at everyday life.
What do we do?
What do we not do, because we are too afraid?
What do we say?
When do we not speak up, only because we are too afraid?
What do we engage in?
What do we refuse to see, because we are too afraid of the truth?
What do we listen to?
What do we pretend not to hear, because we are too afraid of hearing the truth?
What do we believe?
What do we ignore, because we are too afraid?
How many times do you feel getting more and more worried, or even scared, after having watched the news? And still, we continue watching it, day after day. We let in, all that fear-inducing ‘information’. Even if afterwards, it’s become very clear that things were never as bad as they pictured them to be. So apparently, we rather be scared and worried, than have an opinion of our own, and look at life from an optimistic angle. Are we afraid of thinking for ourselves? Are we afraid of not belonging, if we stop ranting about all that goes wrong in the world?
How often do you get whipped up in a discussion and then feel unsettled afterwards? Why do we engage in a discussion that leaves us all worked up afterwards, without even having come to any kind of solution for the ‘problem’ discussed? Why do we love to engage in drama when it doesn’t help at all. On the contrary, it makes us nervous and even sick if we don’t pay attention. Are we afraid of not belonging anymore when we no longer engage, or even fuel, all these drama discussions?
Why do you still engage in gossip, in trashing people, in looking for the bad in others? Do you really feel better, after having bad-mouthed someone? Are we any better a person after we’ve made sure we discussed all the flaws of someone else? I don’t think so. Are we afraid of becoming the person being trashed, just because we don’t agree with the gossipers?
Why do we keep going around and around in circles that are leaving us nowhere? Have you ever felt being stuck, knowing that you are stuck, and still not doing anything to get unstuck? Are we more afraid of the unknown than of staying in a pool of negativity and anger?
I think it’s high time for some introspection.
It’s high time for some reflection on how we look at ourselves and at the world around us:
do you see it as a place of love and gentleness?
Or as a place of vicious gossip and judgments?
Do you look at the world as being full of problems?
Or do you see the world as a heaven of opportunities?
My invitation to you all this week is: become aware of your view on the world.
Most of us just go with the flow and never stop to ask: is this true? Do I need this negativity? Is this necessary? Is this kind? Do I want this in my life?
As long as you believe, all that you hear, you’ll continue to feel fear and anxiety.
As long as you let other people decide what is true, what is good for you, you’ll never feel worthy, you’ll never have self-respect, you’ll never feel YOU.
As long as you’re afraid of the unknown, you’ll never change anything about yourself, nor about your life. Because change is always uncomfortable. And uncomfortable means feeling fear, feeling anxious. Once you release the fear, once you’re brave enough to plunge into the unknown, that’s when real change is possible. That is the only way out of negative situations, that is the only way out of being stuck in seemingly unsolvable situations.
As long as you don’t train your intuition, your mental muscles*, you’ll be unable to think for yourself and hence, be subject to the opinion of others about everything, including about yourself. This induces fear as you’re unable to think for yourself, and to form your own proper opinion. As long as you stay a victim of what you are taught to think and believe, you’ll never be free to have your own thoughts and beliefs. And that is holding you back in life. Choose what it is that you believe in and start acting that way. Train your mind every day to think the way you want to think, to believe what you feel is right and kind.
Stop embracing, subconsciously I know, fear and anxiety. It is something we have to become aware of, something we have to realize that is there. Now that you know, now that you are aware, you can become conscious about it, and change. Believe you can.
I urge you to start looking for the good in people.
I ask you to believe that, there are more good things going on in the world than evil.
Escape from the circle of negativity. As long as you focus, listen, and believe, all this fear-inducing ‘facts’, you’ll be living from a place of fear and attract even more fearful events. You deserve better. Start living a life full of possibilities. Not only you, will feel a whole lot happier, but also the world around you will benefit from this higher vibrational frequency.
I wish for everyone, including myself, to find the strength to be courageous enough to change where change is necessary for your own happiness and well-being. I know, we’re all human and change is difficult, but becoming aware of the possibilities, and acting upon it, will set all of us free. Free from all the things we no longer want in the world.
Both dr. Wayne Dyer** and Anita Moorjani*** teach us that you have to choose how you want to spend your life: you want to be living from a place of fear, or, living from a place of love.
It’s impossible to feel fear when you are in a place of love, and vice versa.
Let’s all make the decision right now, to start living from a place of love.
Try it.
There is so much love out there.
Look for it.
Radiate love yourself.
The more you love, the less you fear.
The less you fear, the happier you will be.
The less you fear, the healthier you’ll be.
The happier, healthier you feel, the less you will feel fearful.
It really is a circle that you have to embrace: the less you fear, hence the more you love. The more you love, the easier it will be, to stay in that place of love. This also means self-love. Love yourself enough to ban all that feels unloving to you.
Don’t let the drama get to you. Don’t engage in gossip. Don’t spread fear yourself. Send love instead.
The Dalai Lama says: “If we would teach all 5-year-olds to meditate on compassion for 1hour/week, we’ll eliminate all violence in one generation’s time.”
There can’t be war when people feel compassion.
There can’t be hatred when we realize we are all connected.
Start training your mind* to focus on the good.
Every night, before you go to bed, write down**** all that was nice today, even the smallest acts of kindness, or even having watched a beautiful flower, or heard a beautiful birdsong, …that will bring you on the vibrational frequency of gratitude. And feeling grateful, is feeling love, is feeling connected.
Picture how you want the world to be, make an image of how the world looks like in your dreams, make it as beautiful as possible. Feel the joy that you would feel if it was already there. That is the perfect way to fall asleep. Your subconscious mind***** will let that image sink in during the whole night and it will become a reality to your subconscious mind. The thing is, your subconscious mind believes all that you put in it, whether it happened for real or not. So put positive, beautiful images and beliefs in it.
97% of all our actions are steered from the unconscious mind, so you better make this an as beautiful place as possible.
The more you train yourself to live from a place of love, the better you’ll get at it, and the more beautiful the world becomes.
The more people who live on that frequency of love, the higher the frequency of the whole world, and that is what we need.
Love, hope, positivity, compassion.
As dr. Sylvia Earle****** says in her latest TED talk, ‘hope is contagious’. Let’s infect each other with hope, with love.
‘Be the change you want to see in the world’ is my most favorite quote of Gandhi. Make sure you live your life in the most loving way possible.
You attract******* what you are, not what you want.
So, BE love, BE a source of hope, BE joy, BE compassionate.
Let’s embrace a world of love.
Focus on people helping each other, instead of on people cheating on each other.
Focus on all the initiatives that connect people, instead of focusing on war.
Make the decision today
that you will not engage in trash talking anymore,
that you will not look for all the bad that has happened today,
that you will not believe there is only bad stuff going on,
that you will live from a place of love from now on,
that you will look for, and find, something positive in everyone and everything.
that you will no longer tolerate unloving behavior around you.
Let’s make this world a beautiful home for ALL living creatures!
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Katrien
*”Less is Yes! part 3” by Katrien Degraeve and many of my articles here on Medium.
**”Excuses Begone, and many, many, more of his books” by dr. Wayne W. Dyer.
***”Dying to be me”, “What if This is heaven?”, “Sensitive is the New Strong” by Anita Moorjani.
****”Night Time: Sweet Dreams, or Waking hours?” Medium article by Katrien Degraeve.
*****”The Trouble is, it’s All up to You. The Good Thing is, it’s All up to You”. Medium article by Katrien Degraeve.
******“TED talk about Hope spots all around the world thanks to Mission Blue” by dr. Sylvia Earle.
*******”Ask and It is Given by Esther and Jerry Hicks; “The Universe has Your Back” by Gabrielle Bernstein.