When I was listening to Annemaree Rowley’s Meditation ‘Acceptance’, it was a great reminder that accepting where you are in life, accepting what is happening in your life, accepting what is, is the ONLY way to move forward in life. As long as you don’t accept what is happening or has happened, you can’t start dealing with it. Accepting doesn’t mean being a fatalist, nor being a doormat, or whatever. No, accepting means, saying to yourself: ‘this is what is going on, I recognize that this is happening right here in my life, this is a fact, I accept this reality and now I can start dealing with it.’ This step of acceptance is necessary to move to a higher vibrational frequency because you will never find the answer on the same frequency as the problem.
You can never heal in the environment that made you sick.
Whenever you feel you are struggling with something, or that you are stuck, you first of all, need to accept that you are struggling, accept that you are stuck. And then you need to start making changes, you need to start taking steps towards making things better.
As I’ve said before, the solution never vibrates* on the same frequency as the problem, so you now know you actively have to do something to get out of the rut you’re stuck in right now. You have to change the environment that makes you sick. That ‘environment’ can be an actual place surrounding you, certain people in your life or it can be the environment of your thoughts. Let me explain.
When the outer environment is overwhelming, and making you feel stressful:
you need to tackle this outer place. You need to start getting rid of stuff, you need to start decluttering. You literally have to create more space** around you, in order to feel less overwhelmed. Once there is less stuff, you’ll feel calmer, you’ll feel more in control. Less stuff means less work, less to-do’s, less responsibilities, less stress. Once you get more used to living with less, you’ll also notice you are more content. You start feeling more satisfied with what you have and you won’t be searching for more all the time anymore. You now realize you have more than enough, and this feeling of gratitude is the best recipe to feel happy in life. You’ll see beyond material stuff, you’ll look for what really matters in life, you’ll start living a more authentic life, a life in which you can be who you truly are. That is so liberating as there is no more pretending, no more faking, no more trying to be the best. You can be you, just you, the complete and wholly you.
When it’s people in your environment that are making you sick:
let them go. You don’t need to fight, you don’t need to be harsh, you just have to take an emotional step back. Whenever possible, let them go out of your life so that your environment is not toxic for you anymore. When that is not possible, accept that they are in your life, don’t fight them but you need to set boundaries. You need to let them know what is acceptable and what is not. That way, you make changes in your environment, you move to a higher vibrational frequency and you can start healing.
When the environment of your thoughts is what is making you sick:
then you need to tackle this ‘place’ as you can never heal in a mind full of darkness and negativity. Not only the outer world can make you sick, even in an outwardly good environment one can get lost in the darkness inside oneself. When we dwell on negative things that have happened, when we replay harsh words over and over again, when we are determined to see the bad in everyone and everything, we will never heal. We need to clear our minds of all these cobwebs. No matter what happened to us, WE are responsible for how we deal with it. If you want to heal, you first need to accept that those dark thoughts are in your mind, then you say to yourself ‘I don’t need those thoughts anymore, they are not helping me in any way.’ Then start looking at, and learn***, how your thoughts are defining your emotions. Once you start practicing steering your thoughts**** towards how you want to feel, you’ll notice that you can heal yourself by not letting your mind dictate how you should think and feel. This is not ‘putting your head in the sand’, this is deciding you have suffered enough, and that now, it is time to move forward. You acknowledge how you felt and maybe are still feeling for the moment, then you decide that it’s enough, you’re done with feeling low, sad and overwhelmed, and you decide that now, you are ready to move on. The more you let go of old negativity, the more room there will be for new and positive thoughts. These thoughts will make you feel better. The better you feel, the easier it will be to think in a positive way. Your mind will have become a new ‘environment’, a place where you can heal.
Whatever the circumstances are that make you feel sick, accept that they are here and then decide to change them in order to start your healing journey. The fact that you now realize and accept that it’s the ‘environment’ that is making you ill, is already the first step towards your healing process. You now know what causes it, you accept it and you are on your way to searching and finding solutions on this different frequency you’re now on. You have now started your path towards healing. It’s never an easy path, so take it one step at a time. Every step is progress no matter how small. You can do it!
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*’Ask and It Is Given’. ’The Vortex, where the law of attraction assembles all cooperative relationships’. By Esther and Jerry Hicks.
**’Less is Yes!’ by Katrien Degraeve
***’The Trouble Is: It’s All Up To You, The Good Thing is: It’s All Up To You! By Katrien Degraeve
****’Which Thoughts Are You Feeding?’ Medium article by Katrien Degraeve