“I am not what happened to me,
I am what I choose to become” Carl Jung.
Often people get very upset when you only even suggest, that what happened to them, does not need to determine how they feel.
People blame.
People keep repeating what happened to them.
People keep telling the story over and over again.
People keep reliving what made them feel bad.
People keep putting the responsibility for how they feel, outside of themselves.
As long as you keep focusing on what happened to you, as long as you keep seeing yourself as a victim of things happening to you, as long as you keep focusing on what you do NOT want to see happening in your life, the longer you will feel the negative emotion associated with that event, with those thoughts, and the longer you will remain on that unwanted, lower vibration.
Buddha said it so many years ago:
“What you think, you become,
what you feel, you attract,
what you imagine, you create.”
This is the most powerful insight you can ever have.
Just think about it for a moment, and realize its power:
What you think, you create.
So why are you still thinking about negative stuff, about old stories, about what you do not want, about what you do not like??????
The longer you keep focusing on the drama, as in
thinking about it,
telling people about it,
hammering on the injustice of the situation, …
the longer you will stay on that vibration, and the longer you will keep attracting similar, negative, things.
The only way out of a negative situation is:
thinking about
what you DO want,
how you can SOLVE the problem.
If you are focusing on solutions, you are on a very different vibration than when you are thinking about the problem itself.
I know it seems a very thin line between thinking about the problem itself, and thinking about solutions for that same problem.
But the difference is HUGE!!
Reliving injustice by talking about it, keeps you on a vibration which will attract more of that injustice.
Focusing on what you want, and how you can get out of that situation, puts you on a vibration where you will find solutions.
It’s the law of attraction.
You cannot create a positive future by focusing on the negative things of the past, and of the present.
You need to focus on how you want your future to look like, to be able to actually create that future.
Visualize what you want. Create a detailed image of how you want your life to look like. ‘Look’ at it over and over again, until your brain accepts it as possible, as already happening. Then it will feel natural to start acting like it, to start changing things in your life until you feel happy and content.
Once you understand this, and once you start living by this very simple, but never easy, principle, you can always feel good.
Accepting where you are right now,
thinking about what you want,
and then making changes so that your new life is happening,
are key elements to feeling good.
The only way to stop feeling bad, is to stop thinking about the things that made you feel bad.
The only way to stop thinking about those negative things, is to actively steer your thoughts towards things you DO want to think about, towards things you want to create, and see happening in your life.
It’s something that you can learn by practicing every day.
The moment you feel your thoughts are slipping towards your dark place again, don’t be upset, don’t be hard on yourself (because that would keep you on that vibe of feeling bad).
Just acknowledge your thoughts, thank them for popping up, and then tell your thoughts you do not need, nor want, them anymore.
Steer away from the dark towards sunnier thoughts.
You are the only one responsible for how you feel.
Oh My, that used to piss me off when somebody said that!
I was immediately ready with a whole list of why and what and who made me feel unhappy.
NO!
You, and only you decide how you feel by steering your thoughts towards positive, wanted, thoughts/situations.
By knowing what you like,
By knowing who you are,
By knowing that you are enough,
By knowing you are not alone,
it becomes easier and easier to go to your happy thoughts.
You’ll notice that once you are living on a higher vibration, you’ll attract what vibrates there. You’ll meet like-minded people, you’ll see more clearly what makes you happy, how you can take care of yourself, and how you want to be living your life.
Even when you believe nobody loves you, which is one of the most favorite false beliefs people keep holding on to, you do love yourself, right? Hold on to that, and you’ll notice, the longer you live on that vibration of love and kindness, the more loving people you’ll have around you. So, you are always loved. Know that it’s your own dark thoughts that make you temporarily blind for the love of others. So, again, you are always loved. Yes, you are. Start believing it.
“Believe it,
and you’ll see it”
is a very beautiful and very true statement of dr. Wayne W. Dyer. You have to believe first that good things are coming your way, and then you’ll start seeing good things happening.
The good thing about us, living creatures, is:
It’s in our nature to want to feel good,
It’s how we are created.
We want to feel good, so work with that creative force, remember what you imagine, you create.
Do the things, think the thoughts, that will bring you onto that vibration of feeling good, and more good stuff will come your way.
Believe in your creative power,
Believe in your own responsibility.
Whenever you feel bad, it is an indication that you are deviating from being connected to your true self, from what makes you feel good.
Steer away from it
by looking for the positive in the situation,
by looking at something, or someone, from a different perspective,
by looking for solutions,
by thinking about stuff that you DO like.
Learn to listen to your emotional GPS, it’s never wrong.
And know that YOU are in the driver seat, so it is up to you to decide which road you take.
Good luck with discovering your emotional GPS,
with learning how to navigate through your life,
with learning how to feel good.
It really is all up to you!
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Katrien