Do you believe you can create your day?
Do you believe you have a say in how you will feel today?
Or
Do you believe things happen to you, and that you are just a bystander when life is passing by?
One of my great teachers and mentors, Gabby Bernstein*, urges us to start our day with 4 questions.
Asking yourself these questions will automatically guide you into the right direction. Thinking for a couple of minutes about them, will make you have paused just enough to start your day consciously, to know what and who you would like to be, and how you would like to feel today.
Considering these thoughts, makes the absolute difference in how your day will unfold, and how you will act and react to all that will come your way.
Here are the 4 questions Gabby* suggests:
1) How do I want to feel today?
2) Who do I want to be today?
3) What do I want to give today?
4) What do I want to receive today?
Asking yourself these questions, pondering them, deciding to live up to them, will give you the support of the Universe.
The Universe supports and gives you more of what you are thinking about. The Universe feels your energy, and gives you what you need.
Here is where it gets tricky, you may say you want something, you may think you need something, but the Universe reacts to your energy and gives you what you need.
That is why these questions are so important. They make you reflect on what it is you really need, on what you’re really asking** for.
Asking for success and not doing anything to achieve it, won’t give you success.
Asking for love and not being loving yourself, won’t give you love.
Asking for health and not doing anything to support your body, will not result in you having a healthy body.
Asking for nice colleagues and not being a supportive, grateful colleague yourself, will not result in a warm office atmosphere.
Whatever it is you want, make sure the Universe understands it correctly, by sending out the energy of what it is you want.
That is what the Universe will respond to.
Not only your words, not thinking about what you do not want, will give you what you want.
Thinking, feeling, and acting according to how, and what you want to receive from the Universe, will bring it to you.
1) How do I want to feel?
It may seem obvious that the answer to this question is: I want to feel good today, I want to feel happy and content.
Okay, but what are you actually thinking, how are you acting and reacting?
Be very aware of how you perceive all that is happening today.
Be very conscious about how you talk, out loud and in your head.
Be very conscious about how you act, and how you react to situations.
Because:
If you judge all and everyone you meet.
If you complain about all that is going ‘wrong’ in your life.
If you don’t feel grateful.
If you name all that is not going according to what you had in mind for today.
You will find yourself on a very low vibrational frequency and the Universe will give you more of what is present on that low frequency.
On the other hand,
If you are open to new situations,
if you embrace new experiences,
if you welcome new ideas, ….
you’ll find yourself less judgmental when encountering other opinions.
If you decide you want to feel good today, you automatically decide you
will not complain,
will not blame,
will not shame,
will not judge,
will take life as it comes and look for the positive in all situation.
Even when things go wrong, when you tackle the ‘problems’ with a willingness and a belief that you will find a solution, you will do so.
You’ll find solutions, you’ll see opportunities and the answers will show up in one form or another.
2) Who do I want to be?
Do I want to be a positive thinker?
Do I want to be a problem solver?
Do I want to see life as a wonderful opportunity, and make the most of every situation?
Or do I want to be a dooms person? No, I don’t think so.
The fact that you decide how you want to be as a person today, will make all the difference in the world.
You will choose to be optimistic.
You will choose not to engage in gossip and bad-mouthing people.
You will choose to tell positive stories.
You will choose to live on a high vibrational frequency today.
That way the Universe will give you more of this positive energy and you will feel lifted and supported throughout the day.
3) What do I want to give today?
Friendship.
Love.
Being grateful.
Helping out.
Being a source of positive energy.
Decide what you want to give today. The more you give, the more of that giving energy you will spread and the more ‘giving’ will be surrounding you.
Giving is the best way to feel connected, to feel compassion, to feel love and friendship, to feel happy.
4) What do I want to receive today?
I think we all like to receive guidance, help, clarity, love…
The more we think about what and who we want to be here on Earth, the more we send a very clear message out to the Universe. The clearer our message, the more support the Universe will give us.
Imagine as detailed as possible the person you would like to be and how you want to feel. The more you send this out, the more you will receive what you need.
My invitation to you all is:
Think about these questions every morning.
Stick them on your bathroom mirror, or wherever you will see them first thing.
Read them, ponder them and form your answers.
Say them out loud.
Write them down.
Go over them in your mind, whenever there is a situation where you feel you are slipping into catastrophe modus again.
Repeat your answers of this morning.
Feel the difference in your approach to problems and annoying situations.
Feel the irritation flowing away, out of your body.
Feel how easy it becomes to stay calm.
Reflect upon your day in the evening, and feel the joy of having been on this higher vibrational frequency throughout the day.
Celebrate you having been the person you set out to be this morning.
Feel the joy, be grateful for feeling calm and good about today.
Rest and sleep peacefully.
Start the new morning with the same questions.
Repeat this day after day.
You’ll feel it becoming a natural ritual, a part of starting your day, as obvious as putting on clothes.
Enjoy this new way of being the best version of yourself, day after day.
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Katrien
*’The Universe Has Your Back’ and many more books by Gabby Bernstein.
**’Ask and it’ll be Given.’ By Esther and Jerry Hicks.