We so often hear people say, or maybe you are saying this too: I’ll be happy, I’ll be more relaxed once …
The house is finished,
Things settle down,
The economic situation has improved,
The mortgage is paid off,
The kids have graduated,
I have more money,
I have more time,
I am retired, …
All external factors that indeed can be a reason for you to stress out, to be frustrated. But all those things are facts of life, there is no way around it. The only thing you get to decide is HOW you look at it, HOW you deal with everyday life situations.
If you wait until all is well, you’ll have missed out on life entirely because there will always be some, or more, external factors that you wished were different.
“Ego says: Once everything falls into place, I’ll feel peace.
Spirit says: Find your peace, and everything will fall into place.”
Marianne Williamson
Decide now to start listening to your spirit, your soul, your Higher Self and tell the ego, aka your Protective Self, that all is well, all is as it should be, that this is life and that there is no need to see everything and everyone as potentially dangerous, as something you need to defend yourself against. Look at the good in situations, look at what binds us instead of what is dividing us.
The more we see and accept that life is this mixture
of good days and bad days,
of joy and sadness,
of saying Hi and saying Bye,
of winnings and losses,
of good health and sickness,
of spectacular experiences and dull chores, …
the easier it will be to find your peace and happiness in life.
I highly recommend listening to the meditation, on the Insight Timer app, of Annemaree Rowley called ‘Gratitude’. She describes so beautifully how being grateful and how being willing and being eager to see the beauty in our daily lives, makes us feel happy, joyful and peaceful.
Don’t wait to be at peace with your life, don’t wait to be happy, don’t wait to feel joy.
THIS is life, live it NOW.
Practice gratitude and you’ll feel how different you’ll start experiencing your life. Practice every day until your brain has made those new connections. When we repeat a thought, a behavior, over and over again for at least a period of 3 months, you’ll notice a change in your mindset, in your behavior. You’ll have replaced old ways of thinking, of acting, with new ones. The more you keep practicing the more it’ll become your new MO, your new automatic response to life. Listen to the gratitude meditation daily, write every night in your gratitude journal*. Note at least 3 things you are grateful for, things that made you smile, things that warmed your heart. The more you practice silence, gratitude, … the more your mind quiets down, the more you’ll be able to take a deep breath, whenever you would normally get on your high horse, and react from a calm place. The calmer you are, the less you’ll react from your ego, and the better you’ll see the situation for what it is, rather than as a personal attack. Keep on practicing and you’ll start acting and reacting to all in life in a very different way.
You’ll feel frustration turning in to compassion.
You’ll start handling things with a more peaceful mind.
You’ll start under-reacting where you used to over-react.
You’ll feel it becomes easier to see things from a different point of view.
You’ll see the good in people.
You’ll start appreciating the little things.
Life will feel lighter, brighter and easier although no external factors have changed.
Not only will you be more peaceful, you’ll start attracting* more and more good stuff too.
‘Suddenly’ your life will become better on so many levels:
Because you worry less, you’ll sleep better.
Because you sleep better, you’ll feel more energy.
Because you feel more energy, you’ll be in a better mood.
Because you are in a better mood, you’ll find solutions to ‘problems’ more easily.
Because you solve more problems, you’ll feel lighter.
Because you feel lighter, you’ll feel happier.
Because you feel happier, you’ll radiate this joy and warmth onto your environment and
Life will feel so much better!
Decide to live your happy life now! There is no other time to live it, as the past is gone and the future is not here yet.
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Katrien
*’Night Time: sweet dreams or waking hours?’ article by Katrien Degraeve
**’Ask and It Is Given’. ’The Vortex, where the law of attraction assembles all cooperative relationships’. By Esther and Jerry Hicks.