Far too often I hear people saying: “Yeah, but what can I do, I have no choice.”, …
And here is where I want you all to realize, that you do have a choice. I know it sounds easy, and I get a lot of push-back when I say this, but you do.
Learning to make choices, is training your mental muscles, and that is exactly like training your physical muscles: when you want results, you have to train them every day.
When you wake up in the morning, start by deciding how you want to feel today. Do you think this is silly? Maybe, I don’t care, it’s the result that counts.
When you start your day, saying:
I want to feel good today.
I will not let circumstances get me down.
I feel strong enough to handle things.
Chances are, that you will be able to handle all that will be happening today.
What I want to say is, it’s a choice.
And of course, I am not talking about you having to feel joyful when you receive life-altering news, or when you hear from a sudden death or so.
I am talking about handling life as we experience it day-in-day-out.
Making the choice that you are in control of how you feel, puts you already on the vibrational frequency* of possibilities, of solutions, of answers.
And hence you will find them.
Train your mind** to not dwell on feeling sad, on feeling down, on feeling angry, … because once you stay too long on a low vibrational frequency, it’s even harder to get off it. It becomes your way of being, it becomes your modus operandi, your habit, and old patterns are hard to change. But not impossible! It’s a choice to begin with, and then it’s being consistent in changing your thoughts whenever you feel they are slipping towards negativity again.
Recognize the thought***, say to it, “thank you for showing up and for trying to protect me from harm, but that is not necessary anymore. I let you go.” This is training your mental muscles. Again, you might think this feels a bit silly and you may not see how this can help you, but it does. Keep it up and you’ll feel it getting easier and easier.
Having a low moment is normal, we all have them. But the important thing is, not to stay there.
Don’t push it away, but recognize it, and gently let it go.
Create your own life****, create how you want to feel, create what you want to do, create what you want to give and receive.
Be very clear on what you allow to enter into your life, and what you distance yourself from.
If you feel you get easily overwhelmed by disaster, stop watching the news.
If you feel you get easily absorbed in gossip, avoid people who gossip.
If you feel you need silence, go into nature.
If you feel people are often a bit too much for you, go and be with animals, take care of them, have pets, go for walks with dogs, …
No matter who you are, no matter what you like, no matter what is weighing you down, there is always a possibility to create situations in which you can thrive.
But
You have to do the work.
You have to make the decision.
You have to make the choice.
Do you have to walk your path alone?
No, you’ll find like-minded souls along the way.
But it’s you who has to make the decision which path you want to walk, meaning, how you want to live your life.
You can do it.
Step by step.
Decide you want to feel good.
Take action, because action is worry’s worst enemy.
You don’t have to know exactly where you’re going, as long as it’s forward. The longer you are walking, the easier the steps will start to feel.
You’ll start to feel support*** from unexpected places,
suddenly you will be ‘lucky’,
good things will start happening to you.
And all of this will make it easier, and you’ll feel a shift in your life, you’ll feel a shift in how you feel, you’ll start to feel stronger, less dependent on how others live their lives. You will have found the clarity of who you are and of how you want to live, and enjoy, your life.
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Katrien
*”Ask and it is Given.” By Esther and Jerry Hicks.
**”The Trouble is, it’s All up to Us. The Good Thing is, it’s all up to Us.” By Katrien Degraeve.
***”Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life, Living the wisdom of the Tao.” By dr. Wayne W. Dyer.
****”The Universe has your Back.” By Gabby Bernstein.