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Everyone knows this saying. And literally, it means that everyone has his\/her own opinion of what is beautiful and what not.<\/p>\n
But to me, it means more<\/span><\/strong> than just deciding what you find beautiful or not.<\/p>\n To me<\/span>, it means that you decide, how you look at the world, how you want to see things.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n This decision will be the difference<\/span><\/strong> between feeling happy and content<\/span><\/strong>, or feeling miserable and \u2018targeted\u2019.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n You can choose whether<\/span><\/strong> you want to see the beauty and the goodness in people, in your life, or,<\/span><\/strong> you can decide that everyone is out to get you, that you never get a break, that other people are always lucky but never you.<\/p>\n Your decision of how you look at the world around you, is crucial for your well-being<\/span><\/strong>.<\/p>\n That is one of the most underestimated facts in life. We underestimate what negative thinking does to our health, to our well-being<\/span><\/strong>.<\/p>\n And that is why it is high time that we become conscious of <\/span><\/strong>how we\u2019re thinking about all that is happening in the world around us.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n The thing is, most of the time, people are not even aware<\/span> <\/strong>of their being so negative, or so untrusting and paranoid.<\/p>\n And even more, the moment you point out to them that there really is more beauty in the world than ugliness, they say that you\u2019re na\u00efve, that you are oblivious of how the real world is, and they even get angry. It\u2019s as if, when people can\u2019t complain about their life, they don\u2019t know how to act anymore.<\/p>\n Isn\u2019t it sad that people don\u2019t know how to look for, and see, beauty anymore?<\/p>\n Therefor my invitation to you all this week is:<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n Become very aware of how you see and interpret<\/span> what is happening around you.<\/p>\n Become very aware of how you talk<\/span> about things and people.<\/p>\n Every time you get upset with something, think about this for a moment:<\/p>\n \u201cWhat really happened here?\u201d<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cWas that really how they meant it?\u201d<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cWhat is fact, and what did I make of it?\u201d<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n You\u2019ll soon realize that you can easily make different versions of all that is said, all that is done, all that is happening.<\/p>\n The moment you start choosing and ask yourself:<\/span><\/p>\n \u201cWhat else is possible here?\u201d<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n is the moment that you\u2019ll see your life changing<\/span>.<\/p>\n You\u2019ll feel a shift in how you feel because you\u2019re not looking to find ugliness anymore.<\/p>\n Is this being a Pollyanna?<\/p>\n Maybe.<\/p>\n But what do you prefer?<\/p>\n Feeling unhappy, and feeling that all and everyone is mean to you?<\/p>\n Or<\/p>\n Feeling blissful for all the beauty in your life, for all the friends in your life?<\/p>\n As long as 2, or more, versions of the \u2018truth\u2019 are possible, why not choose the best version of them all?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n This is not being na\u00efve.<\/p>\n This is not denying what is happening.<\/p>\n This is not being a doormat and letting everyone walk all over you.<\/p>\n No.<\/p>\n You have your boundaries.<\/p>\n You will still speak up when needed. But you\u2019ll choose to, in a calm and respectful way. Not in a knee-jerk reaction which never leads to anything constructive.<\/p>\n The automatic response to any situation will change from, always feeling attacked, to, looking at the situation from different angles.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n That way, you decide what really happened here and you choose to (re-)act in a proper, constructive way.<\/p>\n This change in automatic behavior will mean a world of difference to how you feel and to your whole experience of life.<\/p>\n The more positive you see things, the happier you will be.<\/span><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n The happier you\u2019ll feel, the calmer you will react to everything.<\/span><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n The calmer you\u2019ll react, the less situations you will face where things get heated and where arguments start.<\/span><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n It really is beneficial to all.<\/p>\n First of all, you<\/em> will feel better.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n Which results in sleeping better, in feeling healthier, in feeling more energetic, in enjoying life more.<\/p>\n And because of you feeling better, of you being on this higher vibrational frequency,<\/p>\n people around you<\/em> will feel that vibe too and will feel this positive power.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n You\u2019ll start attracting things that are also vibrating on this frequency and you\u2019ll \u2018suddenly\u2019, meet more nice people, more good stuff will happen.<\/p>\n It will feel as if you can be more you, as if you have to pretend less, as if you can stop trying to fit in, because you will be surrounded by people with whom you belong.<\/p>\n And that is what I wish for all of you:<\/p>\n Decide to look for, and see, the goodness in the world.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n Train yourself to see \u2018what else is possible\u2019.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n Do this every single day and you\u2019ll feel this becoming your new MO.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n The most beautiful things will start appearing.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n You\u2019ll feel less stress, less anxiety, less frustration as you\u2019ll have learned to look for other views on what is happening around you.<\/p>\n Thank you all for reading me, and for supporting me on Medium. If you want unlimited access to all of my articles, and of many other authors, you can become a Medium Member. You\u2019ll be supporting me and all the other authors. Many, many thanks to you all!!!<\/p>\n Katrien<\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Everyone knows this saying. And literally, it means that everyone has his\/her own opinion of what is beautiful and what not. But to me, it means more than just deciding what you find beautiful or not. To me, it means that you decide, how you look at the world, how you want to see things. 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