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Being happy, being lucky, \u2026 is not something that just happens, you have to create the right circumstances<\/span><\/strong> to make it possible.<\/p>\n I heard a nice comparison in one of the teachings of Bruno Lallement*:<\/p>\n \u201cIf you want a beautiful rose, don\u2019t focus on the rose, focus on the rose bush.\u201d<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n Make the environment as optimal as possible and the chances to have a \u2018beautiful rose\u2018 will skyrocket.<\/p>\n That\u2019s exactly what goes on in people\u2019s lives too. The more you create circumstances that will enhance your chance of being happy, of being lucky, the greater the possibility of \u2018finding\u2019 happiness.<\/p>\n This of course implies that you have to actively do<\/em> something<\/span>, and that\u2019s where people tend to object. They see other people succeeding in life, seemingly getting all the breaks one needs, without any setbacks. But that\u2019s where they have it wrong. Nobody gets anything just for free, without putting any effort in it.<\/span><\/p>\n The difference is: people who succeed, people who are happy,<\/span> people who never seem to be down, don\u2019t wait for luck to knock on their door. They know what they want and what they don\u2019t want. They also know that life comes with ups and downs, but they don\u2019t let themselves be defined by it<\/span>. They<\/span> <\/strong><\/em>continue to create the best circumstances possible to have the life that they envision.<\/em><\/span><\/strong> That doesn\u2019t mean they don\u2019t fall down from time to time, that doesn\u2019t mean there is no illness, death, or any other losses in their lives. No, they know that life brings us all sorts of stuff and they \u2018tend to the rose bush\u2019.<\/p>\n That is my invitation to all of you: no matter where you are in life, create the best possible circumstances to move forward.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n First of all, make sure you are in the best possible condition. Take good care of your body and mind*<\/span>*. Make sure you create your inner sanctuary*** where you can go to whenever you feel like it.<\/p>\n Then take a very close look at your life<\/span>. What does your life look like? What do you like in it? What would you like to go away? Make a list.<\/span> Yes, here I am again \ud83d\ude42 asking you to write things down. The thing is, once you\u2019ve written it down, once you see the words on paper, it\u2019s more concrete, it becomes tangible and you can actually create a plan to make changes. The actual writing, manually with pen on paper, makes your brain make connections between your left and right side of your brain. This is even better than typing on a keyboard.<\/p>\n In the list \u2018I want less of this\u2019, cancel all you can, delegate all you can, get rid of all you do not need anymore.<\/span><\/strong> Be fierce, there is a LOT you do not need in your life. It may not seem so in the beginning, because we are creatures of habit, but try without it and see what happens. Give it some time to get used to this new lifestyle and see how it makes you feel once you\u2019ve become used to this new \u2018lighter\u2019 life.<\/p>\n Then look at the list of \u2018I like this and would like to have more of this in my life\u2019. Be very conscious about how you fill**** your agenda.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n It is true that a lot of things are fun, are nice to have, are interesting, \u2026 but you can\u2019t do it all, you can\u2019t read it all (God I wish I could :-)), you can\u2019t go everywhere, \u2026 You have to choose. If you make a plan, you can see what you have room for right now, and what you have to postpone till later. That gives you some peace of mind, because you make a conscious choice and that takes some of the pressure off of \u2018having to do it all now\u2019. Your FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out) will decrease drastically. You learn how to choose some things you like, make them part of your life and ENJOY them fully.<\/span> If you choose to be less busy, you can finally stop thinking about the next thing you want\/need to do. As long as your agenda is full, your head will be full, and there won\u2019t be room to enjoy the present moment. Feeling happy, feeling lucky is all about \u2018tending to the rose bush\u2019.<\/p>\n You make sure you are as healthy and as calm as possible. You make sure your energy is not being sucked away by all the too much in your life. You make sure there is room in your life in between things, make sure there is space. Then whatever happens in life, you\u2019ll feel able to handle it.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n Don\u2019t be afraid to ask for help either. No one said you have to do everything all by yourself. Ask wherever you feel you need help: h<\/span><\/span>elp with doing chores, help with work stuff, help with realizing plans you would like to see unfold, \u2026 no matter what it is. If you feel you could benefit from someone else\u2019s insights, or from someone doing things for you or together with you, ASK them. What is the worst that can happen? Either they say yes, of course! Great! Or they say, sorry I can\u2019t, and they may know someone who might be able to help you even better. Also great!<\/p>\n All I want to say is, create your own life<\/span>, don\u2019t let things \u2018just happen to you\u2019. The more you make sure you create the \u2018best possible circumstances\u2019, the more things will happen how you would like them to manifest in your life. Every step in this desired direction, will put you in a new place from where it becomes easier and easier to follow your path.<\/span> Go step by step towards the life you would like to have. It\u2019s up to you to start paving, stone by stone. Level the earth, remove what is in the way of having your path. Choose the stones you like and pave your path with it. Will you encounter \u2018ugly\u2019 stones? Stones that don\u2019t seem to fit in? Of course, and it\u2019s up to you to move forward, it\u2019s up to you to know this too is okay, it\u2019s just a stone, you can navigate around it or over it. Choose again and again what gives you energy, let go of what doesn\u2019t. Walk your path. Look forward. Yes You Can!!!<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n