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People often ask me:<\/p>\n
How can I feel happier?<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n How can I feel less tired?<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n How can I stop feeling hurt?<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n How can I stop my mind going crazy?<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n Well, it is quite simple but not always easy to accomplish.<\/p>\n As long as<\/span> we believe that what other people think of us, is true, is important,<\/p>\n as long as<\/span> we keep reliving our ‘own’ reality,<\/p>\n we will never be happy, or at peace.<\/span><\/p>\n Because there are so many people out there: people with their own stories, their own beliefs, their own battles to fight. What they say to you:<\/p>\n is triggered by their memories,<\/p>\n is a result of how they are feeling right now,<\/p>\n is a venting of their frustration.<\/p>\n It has less to with you than with them.<\/span><\/p>\n When you keep reliving old tories, old conversations, it becomes a negative trap, something you can’t seem to get out of anymore. And with no result other than that you keep feeling bad, that you keep feeling a victim.<\/p>\n So, what you can do<\/span><\/strong> is:<\/p>\n listen to them from your heart,<\/p>\n know they are not perfect, and neither are you,<\/p>\n know you can never please everyone,<\/p>\n let go of the past,<\/p>\n let go of you believing you are ‘right’ and they are ‘wrong,<\/p>\n be a good person,<\/p>\n do the best you can<\/p>\n and accept that:<\/p>\n no one and nothing can ever be perfect.<\/p>\n the world is not perfect,<\/p>\n people are not perfect.<\/p>\n This is how you are taking a step to being at peace, to being happy.<\/p>\n Knowing that<\/p>\n what people think of you, is their business, <\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n not yours. <\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n Dr Wayne W. Dyer<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n That will help your mind stop racing and going over and over that same conversation.<\/p>\n It takes away all your energy and it gets you nowhere.<\/p>\n So, stop it, it\u2019s useless!<\/p>\n Once the mind quiets down,<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n there is room for other thoughts.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n Thoughts we get to choose:<\/p>\n Positive thoughts,<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n warm memories,<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n gratefulness!<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n The saying goes:<\/p>\n \u201cIt is not happy people who are grateful,<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n But it is grateful people who are happy!\u201d<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n Try it!<\/p>\n It really is true!<\/p>\n Make a list<\/span> of all the things that go well in your life!<\/p>\n Make a list of all the little things that made your day more beautiful, even if it was only for a brief moment.<\/p>\n The more you make those lists,<\/p>\n the easier it will become to find things to be grateful for.<\/p>\n The more grateful you become, the happier you\u2019ll be!<\/p>\n Stop wasting your energy on stuff that gets you nowhere:<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n Arguing, competing, convincing other people of \u2018you being right\u2019, reliving your past\u2026<\/p>\n Stop letting your energy get drained by useless stuff like:<\/p>\n watching garbage on TV,<\/p>\n reading stuff that makes you unhappy.<\/p>\n Instead, make sure your energy level stays high<\/span> <\/strong>by:<\/strong><\/p>\n looking for the positive in every situation,<\/p>\n eating healthy stuff,<\/p>\n sleeping enough,<\/p>\n going outside and breathe the fresh air,<\/p>\n getting your body in shape,<\/p>\n helping someone…<\/p>\n You see:<\/p>\n all the things I have mentioned are in your hands.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n It is not rocket science,<\/p>\n It is not difficult to understand,<\/p>\n It is just something YOU need to start doing.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n I know, Rome wasn\u2019t built in one day either.<\/p>\n Go slow and steady.<\/span><\/p>\n Make a plan and stick to it.<\/span><\/p>\n Know why<\/strong> you want to change your habits:<\/span><\/p>\n think about the questions you keep asking!<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n If you want change,<\/p>\n If you want other results in your life,<\/p>\n You\u2019ll have to start doing things differently.<\/p>\n Einstein said it so many years ago:<\/p>\n \u201cInsanity is doing the same thing over and over again and hoping for a different result\u2026.\u201d<\/p>\n You can\u2019t hope for a happier, brighter, healthier life by doing what you\u2019ve always done.<\/p>\n Refocus!<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n Focus on what you want<\/strong>, instead of focusing on what you do not want in your life.<\/p>\n Imagine how it will feel like once you\u2019ve reached that state of:<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n being happy with what you\u2019ve achieved,<\/p>\n feeling lighter, more energetic,<\/p>\n accepting who you are,<\/p>\n being grateful for what life brings you,<\/p>\n seeing everybody as people with the same struggles as you,<\/p>\n knowing that how we look at the world, determines what we will see.<\/p>\n My invitation to you all this week is:<\/p>\n Get a clear vision of how you want your life to look like<\/p>\n and make a plan of all the steps you\u2019re going to take to get there.<\/p>\n Focus on the progress,<\/p>\n Focus on what you\u2019ve achieved each day.<\/p>\n We all waver,<\/p>\n We all relapse into old habits now and then,<\/p>\n But don\u2019t be harsh on yourself,<\/p>\n Refocus,<\/p>\n Get back to your plan and move forward from there.<\/p>\n The main thing is that you keep moving forward,<\/p>\n in little steps and now and then by taking a big step!<\/p>\n You can do it if you want to!<\/p>\n Know why you want it,<\/p>\n Motivate yourself,<\/p>\n Reward yourself.<\/p>\n Be grateful for every step you\u2019ve taken.<\/p>\n Be grateful that you have been given the chance to live in this beautiful world!<\/p>\n