{"id":5493,"date":"2022-02-18T09:39:11","date_gmt":"2022-02-18T08:39:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lcw.comingsoon.site\/why-should-i-be-kind-why-me-first-2\/"},"modified":"2022-03-09T12:36:33","modified_gmt":"2022-03-09T11:36:33","slug":"why-should-i-be-kind-why-me-first-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lifecoachwomen.be\/fr\/why-should-i-be-kind-why-me-first-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Why should I Be kind? Why Me First?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Why do I have to be the one who behaves nicely and why can\u2019t I wait for the other person to make the first kind move?<\/p>\n

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I so often hear these questions and remarks because\u00a0people find it unfair<\/strong>:<\/p>\n

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that they should be the one making a peace offer,<\/p>\n

that they should talk nicely to people who are not nice to them,<\/p>\n

that they should come up with a solution when they believe it\u2019s not their fault in the first place,<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

But then I ask them:<\/p>\n

Why would you\u00a0not<\/strong>\u00a0want to be the one who makes the first move towards kindness, towards solutions, towards harmony in life?<\/p>\n

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Do you want to feel good?<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Do you want to be happy in life?<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

There is only one way:<\/p>\n

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BE KIND<\/strong>\u00a0to everyone, including yourself.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

There has never been anyone who was happy\u00a0holding grudges<\/em>, who was happy\u00a0waiting<\/em>\u00a0for another person to solve a problem, who was happy\u00a0waiting<\/em>\u00a0for some else to change his\/her behavior\u2026 I\u2019ve talked about this in previous blogs.\u00a0Do not put yourself in\u2019 the victim of circumstances\u2019 position, but be the \u2018creator\u2019 in your life, the creator of good vibrations<\/strong>. I talked* about all the different vibrational frequencies of emotions and how you can train** your mental muscles to be able to change your thoughts, hence your feelings. So, you KNOW you CAN change your thoughts, you KNOW how to feel differently. Now,\u00a0all you have to know is<\/strong><\/p>\n

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WHY<\/p>\n

you should be the one to change first.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Knowing that we are all interconnected, knowing that we are all energy beings, it is a fact that\u00a0everything we do, no matter how big or small, has a ripple effect on our surroundings<\/span>.\u00a0<\/strong>Nearby but also far away. The world may seem a big planet in square meters and so we may feel that we are all far away from one another, but it is a \u2018small\u2019 place if you consider our energetic connections, we are all interconnected, we are all one. We all have this responsibility, we all influence the bigger result. In changing the vibrational frequency of your\u00a0own<\/em>\u00a0emotions, you change the frequency of the\u00a0planet<\/em>.\u00a0The more people consciously choose to be kind, to be grateful, to live in a positive mindset, the more effect it will have on\u00a0everyone<\/em>, on the whole world<\/span>.<\/strong>\u00a0That\u2019s why global mediations are so powerful. Bruno Lallement*** organizes a global mediation every Sunday sending kindness and gratitude into the world. Dr. Deepak Chopra**** already talked, years ago, about\u00a0sending positive vibes<\/em>\u00a0into the world with as much people as possible to have a bigger effect, about\u00a0letting go of your ego<\/em>\u00a0(which is still holding grudges), and about\u00a0sending your<\/em>\u00a0intention to create harmony and good<\/em>\u00a0into the world. You can think this is all very woo-woo and as most of us can\u2019t see this energy*****, we may find it is hard to believe this actually works. But think for instance about all the religious people who are praying to make the world a better place. In all cultures, religions, there are rites, prayers, \u2026 in which people think, pray, dance, \u2026 for a better outcome.\u00a0People experience that sending out positive vibes, believing there is a solution, does make a difference<\/em><\/strong>. Believing\u00a0<\/em>there is a positive outcome possible, already\u00a0helps<\/em>\u00a0you achieve it. Of course you need to\u00a0take action<\/em>\u00a0too. It\u2019s not a 1+1=2 equation. Skeptical people say that things don\u2019t work like that, they say it\u2019s not because you think something, it will happen. I know, it\u2019s not that straight forward but my point is that being skeptical will definitely\u00a0not<\/em>\u00a0give you the outcome you desire and you\u2019ll be miserable because you\u2019ll be attracting more negative stuff. So you might as well send out positive vibes, it will make you feel better because you\u2019ll be vibrating on a higher frequency and you\u2019ll be attracting more good stuff, hence a positive outcome. You can never do harm in wishing good things, in being kind and compassionate.<\/p>\n

My way of living is:<\/p>\n

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Be the reason people still believe in the goodness of people******<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Believe that being kind will result in kindness<\/strong><\/span>, maybe not always in the way you expect it, as you are not responsible for other people\u2019s actions, but you will reap positive results in your life when you live your life in a kind way. Negative thinking only results in more negative stuff. In my opinion, it does not matter who is wrong and who is right, who can prove it scientifically or who can\u2019t: all that matters to me is that we all feel good, that we act kindly, that the world is a better place for all of us, that we act compassionately and caring towards all life on earth.<\/p>\n

There are many sayings which support \u201cwhat you do in life, how you treat other people will result in how people treat you, in what you experience in life\u201d, and as proverbs come from \u2018old wisdom\u2019, from \u2018a lot of people having had this experience over and over again\u2019, there must be some truth in it, no? For example:<\/p>\n

You reap what you sow.<\/p>\n

What goes around, comes around.<\/p>\n

If you dig a hole for others, you\u2019re sure to fall in it yourself.<\/p>\n

As you make your bed, you must lie on it.<\/p>\n

We do \u2018know\u2019 that how we behave, determines how our life will look like, how people will react to us. It\u2019s just that, when we start talking about\u00a0consciously sending out good vibes and believing in good things happening thanks to our thinking and behavior,<\/strong>\u00a0then suddenly skepticism rules. I say, take a chance, try it. There will never come anything bad from being kind, you\u2019ll never regret having been kind, on the contrary. As the Dalai Lama says:<\/p>\n

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\u201dIf you want OTHERS to be happy, practice compassion.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

If YOU want to be happy, practice compassion.\u201d******<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Compassion IS being kind. Compassion makes us look at the world, at people, knowing we are all one, knowing we all have our struggles. Compassion is knowing that in being kind, we help other people to feel better and become better people too. Compassion is also needed towards ourself. When we stop beating ourselves up, when we stop feeling guilty, when we start accepting that we make mistakes and that we can learn from them, that will make us better people, that will make us kinder people, that will make us more compassionate.<\/p>\n

So,<\/p>\n

Why Do\u00a0I<\/em>\u00a0Need To Be Kind First?<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

My answer is very simple:<\/p>\n

It\u2019s the only way towards feeling good<\/strong><\/span>, towards leading your life the way you want to live it and towards feeling how you want to feel.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s the only way to make the world a better place for ALL of us.<\/span> And isn\u2019t that what we all want, ultimately, a nice, kind, compassionate world?\u00a0<\/strong>The more people that are feeling good, the higher frequency the world vibrates on. In making sure you are feeling good, you offer a wonderful gift to yourself and to the world.<\/p>\n

Thank you all for reading and supporting me!<\/p>\n

Katrien<\/p>\n

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www.lifecoachwomen.be<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Author of \u00ab\u00a0less is Yes!\u00a0\u00bb<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

*<\/strong>\u00a0\u201dNot Happy? Decide Now To Stop Feeling Bad\u201d by Katrien Degraeve on Medium<\/p>\n

**<\/strong>\u201cThe Trouble Is: It\u2019s All up To You. The Good Thing Is: It\u2019s All Up To You\u201d by Katrien Degraeve on Medium<\/p>\n

***\u00a0<\/strong>\u201cRessources et Actualisation\u201d Bruno Lallement<\/p>\n

****<\/strong>\u00a0\u201dYou are the Universe: Discovering Your Cosmic Self, and Why It Matters\u201d by Deepak Chopra MD, and Menas Kafatos PHD. and \u201cThe Essential, Spontaneous Fulfillment of Desire\u201d by Deepak Chopra MD.<\/p>\n

*****<\/strong>\u00a0\u201dThe Energy Codes\u201d by Dr. Sue Morter<\/p>\n

******<\/strong>\u00a0\u201dMy Thoughts, My Words\u201d by Franze Garcia<\/p>\n

*******<\/strong>\u00a0\u201cThe Art of Happiness\u201d by the Dalai Lama XIV<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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