{"id":6409,"date":"2023-09-08T10:35:57","date_gmt":"2023-09-08T08:35:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lifecoachwomen.be\/always-striving-but-never-arriving\/"},"modified":"2023-09-08T10:35:57","modified_gmt":"2023-09-08T08:35:57","slug":"always-striving-but-never-arriving","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lifecoachwomen.be\/en\/always-striving-but-never-arriving\/","title":{"rendered":"Always Striving but Never Arriving\u2026.*"},"content":{"rendered":"

Do you often feel like this?<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Do you feel you\u2019re always working, struggling, doing more, \u2026 <\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

and yet never have that feeling of being where you want to be, of being enough, of having enough, of having \u2018arrived\u2019, \u2026?<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

If your answer is \u2018yes\u2019, then it\u2019s high time you take a good look at:<\/p>\n

How do you perceive life? <\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

What do you expect in\/from life?<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

What are your expectations for\/from yourself and for\/from others?<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

When is enough, truly enough?<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

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Ask yourself:<\/p>\n

Where do I want to arrive in life? <\/em><\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

What makes me feel happy and content?<\/em><\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Make your answer, your vision as clear and as detailed as possible<\/span>. That\u2019s the only way you\u2019ll ever be able to know and say \u2018this is enough\u2019, \u2018this is what I was striving for and I have arrived\u2019. That\u2019s when you\u2019ll truly be able to feel inner peace and contentment.<\/span><\/p>\n

If your goal is for instance to have a career: define what you<\/em> understand by having a career. For one person this may be: having a paid job and for someone else it may be \u2018being in charge\u2019. Here again, make it as detailed and concrete as possible because otherwise: once you\u2019ve \u2018arrived\u2019, you\u2019ll set yourself a new destination, a new goal. Is that a problem? Well, look at how you feel, look at your life and you\u2019ll have your answer.<\/p>\n

Why do you feel you never seem to arrive? <\/em><\/p>\n

Why are you always striving for and wanting more? <\/em><\/p>\n

Why do you feel you always need to do more? <\/em><\/p>\n

Who tells you to do more? <\/em><\/p>\n

Who asks more and more of you? <\/em><\/p>\n

I think if we\u2019re being really honest with ourselves: it is us, it is we ourselves, who continue to put more on our plate. We seem to want more all the time, but why?<\/span><\/p>\n

Why aren\u2019t we satisfied with what we\u2019ve achieved and with what we once saw as our destination?<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

Why do we keep pushing ourselves to do more, to have more, to own more, to achieve more?<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

When is enough, really enough?<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

Why do we keep striving for more when we all feel it\u2019s depleting us?<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

Is it FOMO? Is it our insecurity? Is it our EGO which is dictating what we need to do, be, have?<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

Define what it is you really need<\/em> to be happy in life and what is excess<\/em>. There is ALWAYS more to see, to do, to have. But trying to have it all, only makes you feel unhappy, frustrated, tired, \u2026 as it is IMPOSSIBLE to do it all. There is simply too much in the world to want it all.<\/p>\n

Make a list of what you need<\/em> <\/strong><\/span>(mind you, not what you want but what you need) in the following categories: material stuff, relationships, health, job, hobbies. Make it your personal list. Be realistic, make it a humble list of what you need <\/em>in life. Then write next to it what you currently have<\/em><\/span><\/strong>. You\u2019ll be amazed by what you\u2019ve already achieved in life. You\u2019ll see that you already have more than what you need, maybe even all that you ever wanted! And maybe in some categories you do not have what you need yet, but once you\u2019ve established certain areas in life where you already \u2018arrived\u2019, you\u2019ll create space for the ones you still need something more to be able to live a fulfilled life.<\/p>\n

The more you write down very concrete things, the more you\u2019ll realize you have already more than enough. That is exactly what you need to \u2018feel you\u2019ve arrived\u2019.<\/p>\n

The more you feel this pressure disappearing of striving for more, the more you\u2019ll see, the more you\u2019ll appreciate, the more grateful you\u2019ll be for what is already present in your life.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t listen to the lies of your EGO**<\/span> <\/strong>as dr. Wayne W. Dyer so accurately describes in his work \u2018The Power of Intention\u2019**:<\/p>\n

First lie: \u2018I am what I do\u2019.<\/span><\/p>\n

Second lie: \u2018I am what I have.\u2019<\/span><\/p>\n

Third lie: \u2018I am who I know.\u2019<\/span><\/p>\n

Fourth Lie: \u2018I am what other people think of me.\u2019<\/span><\/p>\n

Fifth lie: I am all alone.\u2019<\/span><\/p>\n

When you really look at all these lies and think about them for a while, you\u2019ll see that those lies will vanish and all will be resolved once you know<\/span><\/p>\n

who YOU are,<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

that what YOU believe is enough, is actually enough,<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

that what YOU think of yourself, is all that really matters,<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

that believing YOU are enough and worthy of love, will actually bring love to you.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

You\u2019ll also never feel alone anymore, as you now know, accept, respect and love yourself.<\/span><\/strong> You\u2019ll be living on this higher vibrational frequency of gratitude, of love and you\u2019ll attract likewise people and events.<\/p>\n

Make an inventory of what you need, write down the details. As I said before: make it a humble list, not an over-the-top, show-off-list. Put your ego to bed. Be true, be real, be you and only you.<\/span><\/strong> Create a plan to arrive there, if you have not arrived yet. Then, once you realize and know it\u2019s enough, you\u2019ll be able to live your fulfilled life in gratitude and in love. Enjoy all there is in your life. The more you look for, and see what you already have, the more you\u2019ll feel you\u2019ve arrived. You\u2019ll finally stop striving, you\u2019ll finally start feeling happy and content! That is what I wish for all of you! Relax and enjoy your beautiful life!<\/p>\n

Thank you all for reading me and for supporting me on Medium! If you want unlimited access to all of my articles and many other authors, you can become a Medium Member by clicking on this link https:\/\/lifecoachwomen.com\/membership<\/a> and you\u2019ll be supporting me directly (and all the other authors indirectly). Many, many thanks to you all!!!<\/p>\n

Katrien<\/p>\n

*\u201dChange Your Thoughts, Change Your Life.\u201d By dr. Wayne W. Dyer<\/p>\n

**\u201dThe Power of Intention\u201d by dr. Wayne W. Dyer<\/p>\n

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