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Why do we experience fear -or call it anxiety or worry- almost every single day? <\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n Why do we so often feel uncomfortable?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n Why do we feel uneasy in so many situations?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n I highly recommend reading Susan Jeffers<\/strong><\/span>* on this topic. In \u2019Feel the fear \u2026and do it anyway\u2019<\/span> she so clearly describes why<\/em><\/span> we feel it and what we can do about it,<\/em><\/span> how we can learn to handle fear<\/em><\/span> and not be petrified by it.<\/p>\n The first insights\/truths she teaches are already, on the one hand, very comforting, but on the other hand still a bit scary too. \ud83d\ude42 Let me elaborate.<\/p>\n Susan Jeffers states** the 5 truths about FEAR:<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n I think it is comforting to know that it is normal to feel fear<\/em>,<\/span> and to know everyone else is feeling this too. And yet, it may seem \u2018scary\u2019<\/span> (here comes the fear popping up again)<\/em> to know this feeling will always be part of our life<\/span><\/em>. We sometimes may get the impression others do not feel fear, or they may claim they are never afraid but I think it\u2019s all about how we define \u2018fear\u2019 and how we handle this feeling<\/strong><\/span>. Some people just do not label this experience of facing something new as fear, they call it \u2018charting new territory\u2019, \u2018discovering\u2019, \u2018being curious where this road will lead to\u2019, \u2026 and as they do not label it as fear, they are not inhibited by it either.<\/p>\n Every new situation our subconscious mind does not recognize as something we already experienced, gets labelled as \u2018dangerous\u2019. That is a good thing as it makes us alert and protects us from getting hurt, hence the name the Protective Self. BUT we can override our subconscious mind with our conscious mind by analyzing this new situation and realizing it is not harmful, it will not get us killed or sick. Seeing the situation for what it is, realizing it is unknown but not dangerous<\/span><\/em>, will get us unstuck. Making a plan to go step by step through this new experience and grow along the way, will make you overcome your fear.<\/p>\n Breaking through this wall of fear by doing the unknown, will make you stronger and more confident in new future situations.<\/strong><\/span> Every time you will encounter a new situation, you\u2019ll recognize this feeling as \u2018okay this is something new but I can handle this\u2019<\/span> instead of backing away from it because the unknown of it scares you.<\/p>\n You can claim: \u2018I don\u2019t need to grow any more, I\u2019ll just keep doing what I know\u2019, and that is fine BUT life will always throw you a curveball when you least expect it to. Nobody can live a life in which no new situations occur: we all get sick from time to time, we all encounter set-backs, we all lose people we love, we all have to deal with unexpected circumstances at some point in our life. That is where truth number 5 becomes a reality for all of us. Fearing you won\u2019t be able to handle things, is a very paralyzing feeling<\/em>.<\/span> When on the other hand, we practice \u2018handling new situations\u2019, then we don\u2019t have to fear future unexpected experiences anymore as we now know, we can handle them.<\/p>\n \u2018Feel the fear\u2019<\/span><\/strong> will always be there, so the clue to living a joyful, less fearful life is to learn how to handle it.<\/p>\n Practicing doing unfamiliar things, listening to positive messages, writing down affirmations and repeating them throughout the day, meditating to calm down your over active brain, \u2026 are all things that will bring you to the \u2018\u2026and do it anyway\u2019 <\/span><\/strong>part of the title.<\/p>\n The more you stimulate your brain to hear, see, believe positive input, the more you\u2019ll be able to handle all that comes your way.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n As dr. Wayne W. Dyer so nicely says***<\/p>\n Believe it and you\u2019ll see it.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n Believe<\/em> you are able,<\/span><\/p>\n believe<\/em> you are not a helpless person,<\/span><\/p>\n believe<\/em> life is beautiful and<\/span><\/p>\n you\u2019ll start seeing<\/em> the good in what you before considered a very negative situation,<\/span><\/p>\n you\u2019ll start seeing<\/em> you can handle life,<\/span><\/p>\n you\u2019ll start seeing<\/em> yourself as a worthy person and<\/span><\/p>\n your confidence will start growing day by day.<\/span><\/p>\n The more confident you\u2019ll start to feel, the less afraid you\u2019ll be of life<\/span><\/strong>, the more joy you\u2019ll have in life because you now know all will be okay. That does not necessarily mean all will work out the way you had it planned in your head, but it will <\/em>work out just fine and you\u2019ll be okay<\/em>.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n