Being stuck.

When do we know we are stuck?

When you keep thinking the same thoughts,

When you keep saying the same words,

When you keep doing the same things,

You are stuck!

You’ll never get unstuck as long as you keep



and doing the same things.

Start with recognizing that you are stuck!

Notice your mind going round and round

in the same circles,

getting you nowhere.

Now you know that the only way out is:

Thinking differently!

Think big!

Dream big!

What if you could achieve anything?

What if there were no limits to your dreams?

What if you could do anything you put your mind to?

What if there were no objections to what you want in life?

Picture that world!

Don’t be practical yet!

Just dream for a moment.

Create an image

of what you would be doing,

of who you would be,

of who you would work with,

of where you would live…

if you were to live that life,

that life of your dreams!What do you feel imagining that life?

What are you willing to do to get that life?

What are you willing to learn to get that life?

How many times are you prepared to fail to finally get that life?

What part of that ideal life is already within reach?

What part can you already start living today?


No, I do not believe that.

You are you,

you have your dreams already inside you, in your heart

and no way that there isn’t any aspect of that dream,

that you are not already living today or

that is impossible to start living from now on.

You can start living your dream life today!

Believe you can.

Start small but do already one thing from your ideal life!

Then look at what else you can start doing:

look at what you can learn,

look at who you can contact,

look at who is willing to participate in your dream,

look at how you can act,

look at how you can react.

By refining the image of what makes you happy,

by starting to do things that make you happy:

the image of your ideal life will start to become a very clear image.

You’ll know more and more what you want.

You’ll know for sure what you don’t want anymore.

That clarity is what you need to be able

to create a plan,

to write down step by step how you will transform your life.

Start today.

If not now, then when?

You decide whether you’ll go for it or not.

I am not saying you’ll find a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.

No, all I am saying is:

It is possible to create a life in which you are happy.

It is possible to make -some of – your dreams come true.

In taking steps towards

a life that suits you better,

a life that makes your heart expand:

you’ll live more from your heart,

you’ll be more you,

you’ll become who you’ve always wanted to be deep down.

And that is all that matters.

Live being who you are deep down, in your heart.

Remember the saying:

Hell is, on your last day on earth,

the person you became meets the person you could have become.

Life is a journey,

it doesn’t matter where we arrive,

as long as we enjoy the journey,

as long as we learn along the way,

as long as we are moving in the direction of our heart,

as long as we live from our deepest source,

as long as we feel more and more at home.

That’s when you’ll feel/know you’ve arrived.

That’s when you’ll feel your dreams have come true.

My invitation to you all is:

Dream big!

No limitations!

Create this world of love, of pureness in your mind.

Make an image of your best you, living your best life.

Cherish that image.

Set a plan of how you’ll make this image more and more real.

Take you first step.

The more steps you’ll take,

The clearer the next step will become.

Keep going in the direction of where your heart is telling you to go.

Enjoy the way home….


I often hear people say:

“I didn’t want to do this but I just couldn’t say no”

Well, it all boils down to what is most important to you.

When you have your priorities straight,

it becomes a lot easier to say ‘no’ to things you don’t really want to do.

Once you know

what kind of person you want to be,

how you want to live your life,

what is most important to you,

then you automatically say ‘yes’ to things you care about,

and ‘no’ to less important stuff.

Then I hear:

“Yes, but I don’t want to seem rude or not caring”

Well, that is all a matter of perspective.

What do you care most about?

You can do anything in life but you can’t do everything.

You have to make choices.

Suppose you only have 6 months left to live:

Would that make your choices easier?

Would you still do all the stuff you can’t say ‘no’ to today?

Would you still say ‘yes’ to everything to please other people?

Or would you start listening to what your heart says ‘yes’ to?

You can never please all,

you can never do all,

you can never be everywhere.

You know, as Courtney Carver says:

“The only people complaining when you set your boundaries, are the people who do not respect you having any boundaries.”

Remember that.

If you keep giving, giving and giving,

you’ll get depleted and you’ll be no help to anyone anymore,

not even to the people you love.

Do things that give you energy,

meet people you love,

take time to be silent,

take time to know and set your priorities,

take time to breathe and enjoy life,

and you’ll be so much happier, so much more fun to be with.

My invitation to you this week is:

Go for a walk into nature,

listen to the silence,

listen to the sounds of the birds,

listen to the trees moving in the wind,

listen to the ocean.

Reconnect with nature.

Reflect on where you are in your life.

What are your goals?

What are your dreams?How do you want your loved ones to remember you?

How do you want to spend the rest of your life?

Make a list,

write down what is most important to you.

Then look at what you are doing in your life right now.

Don’t judge,

just observe.

You can never change the past,

you can only do the best you can right now.

Notice where you can make adjustments in order to live more from your heart,

more from your priorities.

Make a list of what you want to start doing.

Make a list of things you want to stop doing.

Then start small.

Start doing something that you’ve always dreamt of doing,

even if it’s only by starting to read about the subject.

But start, take it into your hands and commit to it.


Stop doing something you’ve always done,

something you only do because other people ask you to,

something that does not bring you any closer to your dreams, to your goals.

Yes, it may feel awkward in the beginning,

but remember,

only people who do not respect you having any boundaries, will object.

Once you’ve let it go, you’ll feel so relieved,

so much lighter!

You’ll feel liberated.

You’ll feel as if you finally have the permission to live as YOU.

Read this book and you’ll realize your life is now!

It’s time to make those lists!

Be very honest, that’ll make it easier to create that image of your ‘ideal’ life.

Once everything is clear in your head,

it will become a lot easier to say no.

Stick to your dreams,

Don’t waver when somebody asks you to do something.

Know why you’re doing this.

Remember all the times you felt bad when you said yes when you did not want to.

Remember all the things you did not do because you were doing things somebody else wanted you to do.

Know why you want to learn to say no.

Make that image of how you want your life to look like really clear,

and decisions will become:

Hell yeah!


No thank you!

Good luck and enjoy living as YOU!!


How do we perceive the world around us?

What is ‘real’ in life?

How does what we see/ hear/ experience, make us feel?

No emotion ever existed without a thought that preceded it.

So, it’s what we think that makes us ‘see’ the world a certain way.

What we think, colors what we see/ hear/experience.

What we then feel, is caused by that thought.

Just imagine you think someone is mad at you:

You’ll look at that person expecting negative behavior, comments, …

and you’ll hear criticism, disapproval.

We get an affirmation of what we think is happening because we look for this to be true.

And we believe this to be the one-and-only reality.

But is it?

Ever tried asking that person what they really meant?

You’ll do a back flip because of what they will tell you!

They were not mad at all,

they were cautious because they were unsure of what you were thinking because you were subconsciously, sending out vibes of cautiousness, of paranoia.

If there would only be one reality,

then why are there so many ‘mis-understandings’?

Everybody thinks their own thoughts, hence, everybody has their own reality.

Having that in mind, you can avoid a lot of bickering.

Lucky for us, humans, we can choose what we think.

This gives us the opportunity

to look at the world from another angle,

to see another ’reality’,

to understand what else can be possible,

to feel differently about our surroundings, about the people around us.

Choosing what we think, is an incredible power!

It is the power:

to see beauty,

to see love,

to see and feel good.

I know some people say:

this is not real,

this is living in denial.

But is it?

What is the reality?

All the ‘bad’ stuff in the world?

All the negative things happening?

Is this what people see because they hear one of their fears speaking?

Is it them who live in denial of beauty?

Or is it the other person who lives in denial of wrong doing?

There is no ‘one reality’.

Everyone chooses what he wants to see.

Most of us are unaware of thoughts, fears, old habits,

that shape our reality.

Our subconscious mind tries to recognize situations.

When it sees something similar to an old experience,

it pulls out that old memory along with the feelings you felt back then, and this colors the new situation.

That’s why we often react in an inappropriate way,

We thought we knew what was happening and we reacted from that old memory.

Become aware of the fact that it is what you think,

that makes you see the world around you and

this is what makes it feel real to you.

Decide what you will allow to color your world.

Discard thoughts that make you see everything in a negative light.

Develop thoughts, nurture memories that make you see everything in a positive way.

The world will not change because of it, as you cannot change people, nor stop things from happening.

But how you perceive it, will change dramatically.

This becomes an upward spiral:

the better you feel, the more positive you’ll be thinking,

the more positive thoughts you’re thinking,

the happier you will feel.

And so, your world will become brighter and brighter.

This can be your ‘new’ reality’.

Choose how you want to feel by choosing what you think.

You decide how your reality can/ will look like.

It is up to you!

I choose to look for the beauty in life.

It is there.

You only have to want to look for it.

The more positive things you see,

the kinder you’ll become.

The kinder you are, the more you will contribute to a beautiful world.

My invitation to you all this week is:

Decide how you want to feel in life.

Take a good look at what you think when you fail to see the beauty in life.

Flip this ‘reality’ over and see how you feel if you think about it differently.

Look for what else is possible.

The more you practice this, the better you’ll get at it.

Good luck and enjoy being at the steering wheel of ‘what life looks like’


The 17-second rule.

We’ve all heard about the Law of Attraction.

We already know the gist of how this works,

but let’s take a closer look at the finesses of it.

In the book “Co-creating at its best”, you can read a conversation between Dr Wayne W. Dyer and Esther Hicks,

based on the collective consciousness, also known as Abraham.

One of the things they talk about in this book, is the 17-second rule.

When you think a certain thought for only 17 seconds, the Law of Attraction will bring you another thought like it.

So now, you have a second, similar, thought and momentum begins to set in.

When you think this new, similar thought for about 17 seconds, again, the Universe will bring you a new similar thought yet again and momentum builds.

And so, the law of attraction continues and when you’ve crossed the threshold of 68 seconds, you’ll stay on the vibrational frequency of those thoughts.

Now, the momentum is very strong and hard to counter.

The longer you think a certain thought, it becomes a habit of thought.

The stronger the habit, the faster it becomes a belief.

Now, the good thing about it, is that it works for both negative, ‘not-serving-you’ thoughts as it does for positive, ‘serving-you’ thoughts.

So, better make sure you build beliefs that are serving you!

The important thing is, first of all, to recognize your thoughts.

Be aware of what you think, of how you talk to yourself in your mind.

Make sure it are your thoughts and not thoughts other people think and therefor make you think them too.

Know what thoughts serve you and which ones don’t.

How can you know that?

Just take a deep breath, become quiet, and

listen to your body when you think a specific thought.

Do you feel your heart expanding?

Do you feel a smile forming on your lips?

Do you feel able to take action?

Then you are thinking positive, serving thoughts,

thoughts that help you to be who you really are,

thoughts that come from your source.

Do you, on the other hand,

feel yourself frowning, while thinking certain thoughts?

Do you feel your energy draining out of you, like the air out of a balloon?

Do you feel unable to act?

Do you feel a victim of circumstances?

Do you feel anger coming up, frustration, guilt, shame?

Then stop that train of thoughts.

It is not helping you at all.

It keeps you on a low vibrational frequency, the frequency of the problem and you’ll never find a solution on that vibration as,

the ‘problem’ and the solution vibrate on different frequencies.

As we were talking about the 17-second rule, the 68-second threshold, momentum setting in:

I hear you wondering, okay but how do I switch frequencies?

Well, the best moment to choose your new vibrational frequency,

is when the momentum is very low, or when it has stopped.

When you wake up in the morning,

your built-up momentum of the previous day has stopped.

So, the best moment to start your positive train of thoughts,

is when you wake up!

Choose very consciously to think positive thoughts.

Here you can deliberately stay for 17 seconds with that serving thought, that thought that comes from who-you-really-are.

The law of attraction will bring you a new positive thought and when you keep up staying with those thoughts, you’ll find yourself on a high vibrational frequency.

A frequency where you’ll see solutions,

where you’ll feel connected to your source,

where you’ll feel able,

where you’ll meet positive people,Because, when you feel good, you’ll radiate that vibration,

you’ll attract things that vibrate on this same frequency.

This is also an ideal state to express your affirmations.

When you feel good,

when you vibrate on a high frequency,

and you’ll affirm what you want in life,

the universe will bring you tools, people, ideas, … to realize your dreams.

The Universe knows what you feel so that is why it is important to be on a ‘good-feeling-frequency’ when you express your affirmations.

When you are feeling down and you rattle off your affirmations, the Universe won’t hear what you are saying, it will sense that you are feeling down and bring you similar things.

So, yes affirmations work, but make sure while saying them, you already feel the joy you will feel when you’ve reached what you are affirming.

Can you switch frequencies during the day?

Yes, but it will be a bit harder.

As you are vibrating on a low frequency,

you’ll have to focus very consciously on going to this higher frequency.

You’ll have to, actively,

stop your negative thoughts, so that the momentum comes to a halt, switch your train of thoughts to positive ones,

keep your attention on those thoughts coming from your source,

so that the Law of Attraction can bring new ones,

keep it up so that you can reach and cross the threshold of 68 seconds.

Here you can build new momentum.

Keep it up and stay on that new, higher frequency.

Once you see, feel, good things coming your way,

it gets easier and easier to stay on this high vibrational frequency.

Once you’ve been there for a certain time,

even when you ‘fall down’ to a lower frequency again,

you’ll recognize it and you’ll know what to do to ‘climb up’ again.

The more you are aware of what you are thinking,

the more you can choose what you think,

hence, how you feel.

My invitation to you all:

Become aware of your thoughts,

Practice thinking positive thoughts when you wake up,

Stay with them,

Go through the day on the frequency of solutions!

Don’t be frustrated when you ‘fall down’ on a lower frequency again, just recognize it,

and then actively focus on getting ‘up’ again.

The more you practice it, the easier it becomes.

Good luck and enjoy!!


“Don’t be afraid of perfection,

you’ll never reach it anyway!”

I really like this one 🙂

What a relief,

what a reassurance!

Finally, we can:

Stop trying to be perfect,

Stop being too harsh on ourselves (and others),

Stop being disappointed, all the time,

Stop being angry with ourselves when we did not handle a situation perfectly, (as if there were such a thing …)

I know it is hard to let go of that thought of perfection.

I think most of us were raised in the atmosphere of:

You can never work hard enough,

Your results can always improve,

Always focusing on where you failed instead of praising all the things you did good,

Making sure people won’t talk -badly- about you, …

I think you can picture the situation.

And I do not say this to judge the people who raised us, no, not at all.

They only did it out of love,

out of fear that otherwise our lives would be (too) hard.

No, I only mention this so that you’re able to recognize when you’re still behaving:

in a way to please people,

in a way of trying to be perfect,

out of fear of not being good enough.

It is time to stop this behavior.

Don’t be mad when you still slip up from time to time.

No, just recognize it, name it, and let it go.

Move on with the intention of being kind to yourself.

You are good enough!

We all live our lives trying to make the best of it,

trying to help out where we can.

So, we are doing great.

No sane person lives his life saying:

I’ll work as poorly as possible,

I’ll hurt as many people as possible,

I’ll be as hateful as possible.

No, I do not believe that.

We all try our best, in our own various ways.

I’ll go even further and say: even if you think people behave in this atrocious way: think for a minute why this could be. Mostly it is because they are lacking love, approval, kindness from others.

Being nice to them already makes a world of difference.

To them and to you.

My invitation to you all this week is:

Stop looking for perfection

in your own life and in other people’s lives!

Stop looking for where you/people failed, for where you/they

messed up.

Stop trying to impress people,

just do the best YOU can and sometimes reward will follow and sometimes not, that’s okay. Your reward is that you did the best you could, you helped out in the way you were able to.

Stop living a life thinking what other people may or may not say about it.

It’s your life!

Only you know how to live it!

Make it as beautiful as possible.

When you live from your heart:

you’ll automatically do your best,

you’ll be kind,

you’ll be loving.

And that is all that matters.

Your heart is never wrong.

You are doing great.

You are perfectly imperfect.

And so is everyone around you.

Thank you all for reading my imperfect blogs!



How much energy, how much focus, do we give gratitude in our life?

How often do we feel grateful and actually realize this?

How often do we pause and look for all the things in our lives for which we can/should be grateful?

The saying goes:

“it is not happy people who are grateful,

it is grateful people who are happy.”

I believe this to be so true!

Make time to actually see, list, all the blessings in your life.

And yes, you’ll have to pause first because most of the time,

we just rush through life without even realizing what we are blessed with.

We are all very quick to see what annoys us, what goes wrong, what we would like to see different in our life.

But flip this reality around and look for:

what goes right,

what is great,

what we do have,

what we experience: friendship, love, kindness, beautiful nature…

what we are not lacking,

what problems we do NOT have: we are not suffering in the cold, we are not hungry, we do not have to sleep outside, we are not at war, …

just look for it and you’ll find more than you realize right now.

Studies have shown that:

people who write down, every night before they go to bed:

at least three things they are grateful for, things that made them smile, things that made them feel happy, blessed,

are happier in life, are more satisfied with their lives.

It is so simple, but so effective!

It only takes:

a notebook,

a pen,

2 minutes of your time before you put your head down.

Not only will you be happier in life,

you’ll also sleep better because you’ve put positives thoughts in your mind just before you go to sleep.

You will be on a higher vibrational frequency and therefor you’ll steer away from negativity: you’ll worry less, fret less, have less turmoil in your head, … all those things that keep you from sleeping soundly and peacefully.

The better rested you are, the better you’ll feel the next day.

The more energized you feel:

the better you will be able to handle anything that life throws at you,

the less you’ll let problems get to you,

the less you’ll see things as problems,

the more relaxed, the more at ease you’ll go through the day, through your life.

My invitation to you all this week is:

Make time to become still.


Put your hands on your heart.

Think about all the things that go well in your life,

(yes, even in the shittiest times in your life, you can find some positive things, some things – no matter how small- to be grateful for),

Feel gratitude.

Express your gratitude.

Share this heartwarming feeling.

Once you’ll feel how blessed you are,

It’ll become a natural thing to do and

you’ll become:

a person who is kind,

a person who helps out,

a person who understands that:

we are all connected,

we are all one,

we are all at home on this beautiful planet.

Be grateful and ‘infect’ people with your kindness.

Be the reason people believe in the goodness of people.

Help out all the living creatures here on earth.

Respect nature in any way you can.

Respect the wildlife.

So that we can ALL feel blessed for being part of this amazing place we are allowed to call home.

Thank you all for reading me.


“Minimalism is removing the things in your life,

that remove you from your life”

This is just one of the many teachings from my mentor Courtney Carver. (thank you, Courtney, many blessings to you!)

What is removing YOU from YOUR life?

Do you know?

What does your life look like right now?

Do you know?

What do you want your life to look like?

Do you know?

The first thing we all need to do, is have a good look at our lives and

realize what is going on right now.

We first have to know the reality before we can evaluate what is okay and what needs to be changed in order to have the life we crave.

Become very still,

put your hands on your heart,

listen to the real you, to who you really are and

know, feel how you really want to live.

Create a picture in your mind of this life,

make it very real,

take your time to really consider, to really know,

what is important to you and what not.

Once you’ve got a clear image,

Visualize this over and over again in your mind,

write it down,

make a mood-board,

live this life in your mind before you go to sleep.

The more you’ve ‘seen’ and ‘felt’ your future life,

the more it is already embedded in your subconscious mind.

As Dr. Joe Dispenza puts it:

you can remember your future!

Because you’ve repeated the movie over and over again in your mind,

your subconscious mind thinks it has already happened and so you can ‘remember’ it.

Now that you know what you want in your future life,

look at what you need to adjust in your current life to get to live that future life.

What do you need to stop doing, right now?

What is not helping you to have that future life?

What do you need to eliminate?

What do you need to add?

Be very critical to what is present in your life, in your home,

that is keeping you away from the life you want.

Do you want a healthier life?

What are you eating, drinking?

How much sleep do you get?

How much exercise?

How do you spend your free moments?

Do you want more time?

What does your agenda look like?

How much stuff do you own, do you need to clean, store, insure …?

What are you saying ‘yes’ to, when actually you want to say ‘no’?

Do you want more money?

What do you spend your money on?

What do you own that you don’t need: sell it!

What do you buy because other people say it is cool to have?

What do you buy just because you feel you need to, in order to belong?

Stop spending money on things that are not worth it.

Do you want better relationships?

How harshly are you criticizing other people?

How realistic are your expectations?

Do you hold grudges?

Are you blaming and shaming?

How tolerant are you?

Do you want to feel more inner peace?

How still are your moments of stillness?

How quiet is your mind?

How much time do you spend meditating?

You see,

in creating the life that you want,

you need to adjust your current life.

And it is almost always ‘Less’:Do less,

Have less,

Spend less,

Worry less,

Eat less,

Blame less,

Complain less,

Spend less time on technology,

Remove the things in your life that remove you from your life.

Once the excess removed,

you’ll have so much more:

more joy,

more time,

more health,

more money,

more happiness,

more inner peace,

more life,

and you’ll feel … you finally belong.

You’ll belong where it matters,

you’ll belong to you,

you’ll come home to who you are,

you’ll come home to your heart.

My invitation to you all this week is:

Analyze your current life,

Create your future life in your mind,

List the things you need to remove,

List the things you need to start doing differently,

Adjust your current life in order to have that future life!

Good luck and



Fear comes in all forms and shapes.

Fear is what is holding us back.

Fear is what gives us sleepless nights.

Fear is what makes us insecure.

Fear is what makes us feel unworthy.

Fear is what makes us sick in the long run.

When we live in fear,

we vibrate on a very low frequency and on that low vibrational frequency we feel disconnected from our soul, from our dreams, from the Universe, from all possibilities.

I think we can all agree on the fact that is time to let go of fear so that we can start living on a higher frequency, on a frequency of possibilities, on a frequency of joy.

Courtney Carver from ‘Be more with less’ identified the following forms of fear.

One of the fears is FODO

Fear Of Disappointing Others

Especially people pleasers have this fear.

People pleasers are afraid

to let people down,

to hurt people,

to disagree with people,

to say no,

to set boundaries.

But in fact, the only remedy to get rid of that fear is setting boundaries.

Because setting boundaries makes it clear for everyone what to expect, hence it is easier to say no when you feel you need to.

People won’t be disappointed that easily when they know what to expect.

And yes, there will always be people who will still be disappointed,

but ask yourself:

why is that?

Aren’t they the ones who were taking advantage of you not having any boundaries?

It has nothing to do with you, they were setting boundaries for you, but it is not up to them to do that. You are the one who gets to set those boundaries.

Be very clear on:

what you will allow in your life and what not,

what gives you energy and what not.

That is how:

You will respect yourself more,

You will feel better about yourself,

You will feel less depleted because you don’t say yes anymore when actually you wanted to say no.

And trust me, everybody will benefit from it!

Another fear we all know is FOMO:

Fear Of Missing Out

We want to know about everything.

We want to be everywhere.

We want to respond to everything.

We want to participate in everything.

We want to belong.

We want to be noticed.

We want to be liked.

We run around like headless chickens and we miss out on the most important thing:

our own life.

The remedy for this fear is being present.

Live fully in the moment,

Notice what is around you,

Notice who is here with you.

Stop mulling over the past,

stop worrying about the future,

live in the here and now.

Listen so you actually hear,

Look so you actually see,



feel what is here in this very moment.

Cherish the now.

This is something we need to learn.

By becoming still,

by breathing consciously,

by focusing on what is around you,

you will be able to learn to be present.

And by living in the present, you will be living your own life.

Another big fear is

The Fear Of Trusting Yourself

We are always second guessing ourselves.

We are so quick to believe the other one might be right.

We are unsure about:

who we are,

what we want,

what we can expect from life,

what we can say no to,

what dreams we are allowed to pursue.

The more insecure we are about ourselves,

the harder it will be to learn to set boundaries and to live in the present.

Get rid of that fear of trusting yourself by

becoming quiet,

taking a step back,

breathing to relax yourself, to get out of your head and back into your body,

putting your hands on your heart and learning to listen to it.

The more you practice this little ritual,

the easier it will become to be quiet,

to listen to your heart.

After a while,

you will be able to hear what your heart is telling you,

you will know what is good for you,

you will know who you are,

you will know what to do,

you will know how to be present,

you will know how to set boundaries,

you will trust yourself.

My invitation to you all this week is:

Look at what is holding you back.

Look at what you do out of fear of missing out,

out of fear of not being loved.

Learn to connect with your inner voice again,

listen to your heart,

trust and love yourself.

You will be happier, more relaxed, more grounded, more embodied.

You’ll feel more energized.

You’ll be living on that higher vibrational frequency, the frequency of possibilities, of joy, of feeling connected.

That is where you’ll live your life,

That is where you’ll be you.

People will feel that and they will benefit from your happiness too, because a happy, grounded person is kinder, more loving, more tolerant, sees opportunities, smiles…

Let go of your fears and shine!

Thank you all for reading me!


Up to 60 000 thoughts enter our mind every day!


That takes up a lot of our energy, doesn’t it?!

If not all!

Sometimes we feel exhausted,

Sometimes we feel drained,

sometimes we feel heavy,

sometimes we see no light at the end of the tunnel,

just because we can’t get our mind to stop racing.

Thoughts enter,

swirl around,

keep coming back like a boomerang,

seem to multiply every split second!

You feel as if your head is going to explode.

You feel as if the thoughts are in control.

And they are!

As long as you don’t say STOP:

they WILL rule your mind,

your emotions,


your LIFE.

It is up to you to put an end to their reign,

because they will never abdicate!

First say out loud:


Repeat it as many times as necessary to stop that train of thoughts coming in and swirling around like leaves in a storm.

The moment you feel they’ve stopped for a second:

You take over.

You start deciding which ones can stay and which ones must go.

You ask yourself:

What thoughts are helping me?

What thoughts are supporting me?

What thoughts are useful to move on?

What thoughts make me happy?

What thoughts are about things I can actually change?

Work with those thoughts.

Only let those thoughts stay.

When useless, negative, draining thoughts try to enter your mind again:

thank them for showing up,

then tell them you don’t need them anymore,

and give them permission to leave your head,

say ‘bye’.

You may think this is stupid,

you may think this is childish,

I don’t care:

It works!

You have to acknowledge the useless thoughts first before letting them go.

Because pushing thoughts away,

will only make them come back.

The more you push them away, the harder they will come back.

That’s why,

you have to recognize them,

tell them you don’t need them anymore,

in order to let them go.

You get to decide what thoughts you let in.

Work with,

Give energy to:

thoughts that are serving you:

thoughts that make you take action,

thoughts that help you move forward,

thoughts that keep you vibrating on a higher frequency,

thoughts that keep your energy on a high level

thoughts that expand your heart.

Start today!

It will take practice and a lot of determination

because thoughts are stubborn little buggers.

I know!

They keep

coming back,

challenging you,

testing you,

begging you to let them in again.

Be firm!

Say ‘no thank you’!

Train yourself in recognizing the difference between:

positive, action-oriented thoughts

and negative, energy-draining thoughts.

Welcome the first and

thank and dismiss the latter.

Don’t give up,

Keep training yourself!

After a while,

you’ll become very skilled in choosing the helpful thoughts.

My invitation to you all this week is:

Check in with your thoughts.

Start seeing the difference between thoughts.

Train yourself in reacting to them as we said before:

Welcome the positive, action-oriented thoughts

Decline the negative, energy-draining thoughts.

Give yourself the peace and quiet of a restful mind.

The more selective you become with your thoughts,

the more energy you will feel flowing through your body,

the happier you’ll feel,

the more peaceful you’ll feel.

Where focus goes, energy flows.

Focus on the positive thoughts and the energy will flow freely.

Thank you all for reading me.


People often ask me:

How can I feel happier?

How can I feel less tired?

How can I stop feeling hurt?

How can I stop my mind going crazy?

Well, it is quite simple but not always easy to accomplish.

As long as we believe that what other people think of us,

is true,

is important,

we will never be happy, or at peace.

Because there are so many people out there,

people with their own stories,

their own beliefs,

their own battles to fight.

What they say to you:

is triggered by their memories,

is a result of how they are feeling right now,

is a venting of their frustration.

It has less to with you than with them.

So, what you can do is:

listen to them from your heart,

know they are not perfect, and neither are you,

know you can never please everyone.

All we can do, is:

be a good person,

do the best we can

and accept that:

we can never be perfect.

the world is not perfect,

people are not perfect,

This is how you are taking a step to being at peace, to being happy.

Knowing that what people think of you, is their business, not yours.

That will help your mind stop racing and going over and over that same conversation.

It takes away all your energy and it gets you nowhere.

So, stop it, it’s useless!

Just breathe and let your mind go quiet.

Once the mind quiets down,

there is room for other thoughts.

Thoughts we get to choose:

Positive thoughts,

warm memories,



The saying goes:

“It is not happy people who are grateful,

But it is grateful people who are happy!”

Try it!

It really is true!

Make a list of all the things that go well in your life!

Make a list of all the little things that made your day more beautiful, even if it was only for a brief moment.

The more you make those lists,

the easier it will become to find things to be grateful for.

The more grateful you become, the happier you’ll be!

Stop wasting your energy on stuff that gets you nowhere:

Arguing, competing, convincing other people of ‘you being right’, reliving your past…

Stop letting your energy get drained by useless stuff like:

watching garbage on TV,

reading stuff that makes you unhappy,

eating junk.

Instead, make sure your energy level stays high by:

looking for the positive in every situation,

eating healthy stuff,

sleeping enough,

going outside and breathing the fresh air,

getting your body in shape.

You see:

all the things I have mentioned are in your hands.

It is not rocket science,

It is not difficult to understand,

It is just something YOU need to start doing.

I know, Rome wasn’t built in one day either.

Go slow and steady.

Make a plan and stick to it.

Know why you want to change your habits:

think about the questions you keep asking!

If you want change,

If you want other results in your life,

You’ll have to start doing things differently.

Einstein said it so many years ago:

“Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and hoping for a different result….”

You can’t hope for a happier, brighter, healthier life by doing what you’ve always done.


Focus on what you want, instead of focusing on what you do not want in your life.

Imagine how it will feel like once you’ve reached that state of:

being happy with what you’ve achieved,

feeling lighter, more energetic,

feeling healthy,

accepting who you are,

being grateful for what life brings you,

seeing everybody as people with the same struggles as you,

knowing that how we look at the world, determines what we will see.

My invitation to you all this week is:

Get a clear vision of how you want your life to look like

and make a plan of all the steps you’re going to take to get there.

Focus on the progress,

Focus on what you’ve achieved each day.

We all waver,

We all fall back on old habits now and then,

But don’t be harsh on yourself,


Get back to your plan and move forward from there.

The main thing is that you keep moving forward,

in little steps and now and then by taking a big step!

You can do it if you want to!

Know why you want it,

Motivate yourself,

Reward yourself.

Be grateful for every step you’ve taken.

Be grateful that you have been given the chance to live in this beautiful world!