As I was thinking: “What will I write about this week?”
I had it: “thinking”!
Don’t we all win the Nobel Price for the amount of thinking we do each day?
You know there are at least 80 000 thoughts that pass through our minds every single day?
80 000 …
You can already imagine the impact this has on how we feel.
That is why
we can control how we feel!
by controlling what we think.
You all recognize the following situations:
There is a big thing coming up in your life and the treadmill starts:
What if this goes wrong?
What if this is not working properly?
What if I can’t get this right?
What if this should happen at the very last minute?
What if …
We create worst case scenarios in our mind.
We lose our sleep over it.
We are in a bad mood.
We are stressed out.
We feel bad.
And afterwards, we laugh and say:
was this what I was freaking out about?
It went well after all.
People were satisfied with the result.
So, whenever a huge thing is coming up, and as we can never predict the future:
to stop overthinking it,
to stop creating disaster scenarios.
Just prepare yourself properly and then let go of how it will unfold itself.
The future is not here yet, so stop trying to control it already!
The amount of worrying has made you feel bad,
has spoilt so many hours of your life.
Time that will never come back,
time that you could have felt good, relaxed.
Stress, that is making our bodies sick, could have been avoided.
So, do yourself a huge favor and stop trying to control the uncontrollable.
The same goes for things that happened in the past.
You had a row,
You had a thing that went wrong,
You forgot something important,
You hurt somebody (un)intentionally and now you feel bad,
This is all in the past.
You can never change what happened.
You can apologize, as you should in my opinion.
You can change your behavior right here, right now so that it won’t happen again.
But overthinking and keep on going over and over the same story in your head,
does not help anyone.
So, again, stop overthinking!
Stop beating yourself up over it.
The only result of this negative, guilt-driven thinking is:
you’re losing sleep,
you feel low,
you attract even more negative stuff.
You certainly are not helping to make amends for whatever it is you feel you need to make amends for.
What you do right now, is the only thing that matters,
is the only thing that can make a difference to you and to other people.
So, my invitation to you all this week is:
Stop thinking so much!
Live here and now.
Enjoy the present moment.
If you feel overwhelmed, come back to the present moment,
make your world smaller so that you feel you can handle it.
What is to come, is not here yet.
What has happened in the past, is out of your control.
Make space in your head.
Go into nature,
it has a calming effect,
you feel at home,
you feel connected there.
When you feel the thoughts come rushing in your head:
Is this thought changing the situation?
Is this thought making me happy?
If you answer ‘no’ to those questions,
then tell yourself: “stop”!
Put an end to that endless stream of thoughts that are only making you feel unhappy!
Decide how you want to feel.
Listen to upbeat music.
Make yourself useful.
Volunteer at a project you feel very strongly about.
Do whatever it is that makes you feel more relaxed,
more at ease.
Your thoughts create your emotions.
If you want to feel good,
steer your thoughts
to what you can do right now,
to what is in your hands,
to what will actually make a positive change.
Good luck and know that it is a matter of training your mind.
to stay present,
to stop being a drama queen,
to believe that everything will turn out okay.
We are not alone,
We do not need to save the world all by ourselves.
Focus on what is in your hands right here, right now
And let go of all the rest.
You can do it!
Yes, you can!
Thank you all for reading me
author of “Less is yes!”