The meaning we’re giving the word ‘time’ in our lives is very ambiguous to say the least.
On the one hand:
We’re always ‘doing’.
We’re always busy.
We never have enough hours in a day.
Everything needs to be done right now, today.
On the other hand, when it comes down to really ‘life-important’ stuff,
we seem to have all the time in the world:
I’ll do it later,
I’ll change my way of living when I….
Once … this or that, I’ll start doing ….
Why are we such procrastinators when it comes to living a
If not now, then when?
We can never know what is waiting around the corner, we have a false sense of control, a false sense of knowing how our lives will continue to unfold itself.
But we have no clue whatsoever.
We don’t know what’s coming.
The only thing we can manage is:
What can I do right now?
How can I live my life in a way that I won’t have (m)any regrets?
What tiny steps can I take towards living according to my values, towards living from my Higher Self?
Dr Christine Li, a procrastination coach, uses a workable acronym to overcome procrastinating.
The S stands for simplicity.
If you’ve been reading my blogs, my book ‘Less is yes!’, you’ll know that I am all for simplifying your life.
The less you have to stress about, the less you’ll stress.
That’s why I advocate:
get rid of all the things you don’t use, don’t need.
Simplify your overall way of living, and I mean every aspect of your life.
The more you simplify your life, the more space, the more time, the more energy you’ll have to actually do the things that will make you live your life from your heart, from your Higher Self.
The M stands for mindfulness. Here again, I can’t but fully agree with her! Part three of my book talks about clearing out your mind, your false beliefs, old thinking patterns…. And learning how to steer your thoughts, here and now.
Living here, in the moment, in the now, will bring you so much more joy. Don’t wait for something to happen, make it happen yourself. Schedule things you like to do, now.
The A stands for anxiety reduction. What triggers your anxiety? What is it that starts this vicious circle in which you spiral down energetically, emotionally? If you’ve read my last weeks’ blog, that was what we needed to write down in the left column. Recognize what chain of actions you perform that gets you to that low vibrational frequency. Break that chain of actions by changing just one thing. Start small and you’ll see that once that circle is broken, you get to choose your next step. And then the next and before you know it, you’ve created a whole new habit!
The C stands for communicating. We talk all the time but we are hardly ever communicating. Communicating is really engaging in the conversation. You can communicate with words and focus on hearing what the other person says, focus on listening and asking questions to make sure you’ve understood correctly. But one can also communicate on an energetic level. You send out your message on an energetic level. People feel you and you, when you really tap into that person’s energy field, feel them. Therefor: ‘feel’ your words, make sure that what you say and what you feel are the same. Otherwise, there’ll be a disharmony, a blockage of energy, a discrepancy, a non-distinct friction in your body that will drain your energy.
Mahatma Gandhi said:
“Happiness is when what you think, what you say and what you do, are in harmony.”
The K stands for kindness. This is a virtue I absolutely invite everybody to live by. Be kind. Be kind to yourself. Talk to yourself in the same way you would talk to your best friend. The kinder you are towards yourself, the more you let your power return to yourself. By being kind and getting your inner power back, you won’t need outer circumstances to feel happy. You’ll know your own values, you’ll live by them, you’ll feel your strength and you’ll have all the tools to live harmoniously, to live from your Higher Self, to be compassionate, to feel connected, to shift to a high vibrational frequency. As we all know, you attract what vibrates on your frequency, so vibrate on the frequency of kindness, of love and you’ll attract kind and loving things.
My invitation to you all this week is:
write down, (if you haven’t already last week) what will turn your life into:
a life you want to live,
a life you feel as being a good life according to your values,
a life you won’t regret,
a life full of love and kindness.
Choose one picture, or one word written down on a piece of paper (or on your bathroom mirror!) that symbolises this ‘dream’ life,
hang it somewhere you will see it every day.
Every time you see this picture, or word,
reflect for a moment what you’ve been doing to make it happen.
Take a pen and paper and start writing.
Because your brain files something as important when:
you’ve thought about it,
you’ve put those thoughts into words, inside your head,
you’ve put those words down in writing, on paper!
Your brain has sent signals to your muscles to actually write it down.
All those things make it important to your brain, to your mind.
Read that note every evening before you go to bed.
Write down the tiny step(s) you’ll take
the next day, the next week.
Evaluate every month how it’s going.
be kind to yourself!
Otherwise, you’ll change your vibrational energy and you’ll attract what you don’t want.
Build you dream life
step by step,
day by day,
week by week.
Remember, Rome wasn’t built in one day either.
Before you know it,
you’ll have created:
a new hobby,
a new healthy habit,
a new life.
The healthier you are,
the better you’ll feel, and
the easier it’ll become to continue this path.
Thank you all for reading me!
Author of ‘Less is yes!’