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“Sunrise comes after the darkest hours.”

We often have to hit rock bottom before we realize our lives can/must change.

Disasters happen,

Diseases spread all over the world,

We are hurt, we feel pain,

We are scared,

because

we don’t understand this.

Why do those things happen?

Why?

On short-term basis, we cannot find a positive meaning to disaster, it’s impossible to see a positive thing coming from all this.

But what about over the long haul?

Will it change our view on our lives?

Will we be more grateful for what we have,

for what we take for granted?

Will we become kinder people?

Will we feel more empathy for when disaster strikes somewhere else?

Could it be that, here in the West, we thought:

we were free from highly contagious illnesses?

we had everything under control?

we knew perfectly well how to run things?

I think/hope it is a big eye opener for a lot of people:

“This can actually happen to us too!”

It’s not only in Africa or in any other far away country that:

illnesses seem to take over control,

people are not able to cope immediately with the situation at hand

people panic and start acting irrationally.

Maybe next time there is an outbreak somewhere in the world, we’ll be more willing to help them out.

Maybe it will make us realize that only love and kindness are the real answers.

I know, businesses suffer enormously,

I don’t want to minimize any of this, it hits us hard.

That’s why:

people have to rethink their way of working,

people have to come up with short-term solutions,

people have to create strategies so that their business can -hopefully- survive.

Everything is uncertain, and that is hard.

But,

What if we see this as an invitation to reconsider our whole system?

What if we could learn new -and better- ways to conduct our business?

What if, maybe, we realize we were stuck in old habits?

What if, maybe we find an ‘eco-friendlier’ way of running our whole economic system?

What if, maybe, we start to be more ethical, more respectful in the way we treat the competition, the clients?

I don’t know.

All I know is, we have this situation at hand and there are two ways of dealing with it:

We either,

see ourselves as victims: we feel helpless, we panic, we become egotistical.

Or

We see an opportunity/ an invitation:

to find new ways,

to invent new systems, new solutions,

to help each other in the best ways possible,

to actually start living as kind and loving people.

We have time on our hands these week(s), so reflect on this for a while and open your mind to the lessons there are to be learned.

The world, nature, mankind was suffering and now,

we get this world-spread virus that knows no countries, no religion, no color, no gender….

I can only see this as an opportunity for us, human beings, to step up and

become better people,

have more respect for nature,

take nobody or nothing for granted,

become more grateful and more conscious.

I wish you all a good health, a warm heart and

take very good care of yourself and of the people around you,

keep your mind in good spirits (as I wrote in last week’s blog).

And reflect on this situation on a universal scale, be humble, learn what it is teaching us.

We are all connected, we are all living on this planet, there is no room for individualism.

Thank you all for reading me!

Katrien

www.lifecoachwomen.be

You know I like to start my blogs with a quote, or a question, and here is the quote I’ve chosen for this week

I like this one a lot! (Obviously or I wouldn’t have picked it :-))

As I am absolutely not a technical nor technological master mind,

this is exactly my modus operandi when dealing with computer issues, phone issues, and all kinds of electronic stuff!

Unplug!!

I never quite drew the parallel with myself.

But it is actually the very same thing I do:

when I “don’t function” well or

when I want to improve my wellbeing,

when I want to elevate my energy level.

I unplug!!

Even if it is only for a minute, or for a couple of minutes.

This is a huge energy booster.

Try it and you’ll feel the difference!

No time?

Everybody has one minute!

The more you say -and feel! – that you don’t have time to take a (little) break, the more you need it.

We all rush, rush, run, run, hurry, hurry, …

And one day, we will have outrun ourselves…

We will become ill or as Courtney Carver says:

“you’ll face a break down, or a break up or both.”

If you don’t unplug,

If you don’t take the time to:

“Reboost” as in: recharge your batteries, elevate your level of energy,

Take care of your body

Take care of your mind,

Take care of your relationships,

…

There is only one outcome:

Complete crash, meltdown, breakdown!!

We all get “wake up calls” but we are champions in ignoring the ‘signs’:

We feel tired, but we still stay up late

We feel irritated, but we don’t look for the actual cause within ourselves,

We argue more, and again, we don’t see a pattern,

We sleep less,

We stuff ourselves with junk,

We drink more alcohol,

We busy ourselves with useless activities,

….

And then suddenly:

We lose our job,

Our partner decides that enough is enough,

We get ill,

…

And we wonder how we got to this point….?????

Start today,

Be aware,

Listen to your wake-up call(s),

It’s never too late!

Unplug now!

Decide to take back control of your own wellbeing and take a break!

Little breaks everyday:

Put an alarm in your phone and when it sounds:

stop what you’re doing,

take a couple of deep breaths,

go outside if possible. (people are allowed ‘smoke breaks’ so why wouldn’t you be allowed an ‘energy-boost-break’?)

Plan an hour, half a day every week and do something that makes you smile, that expands your heart, that uplifts your energy!

Don’t discard lightly the effect of your levels of energy.

It’s this that will keep you healthy (body, heart and mind)

Don’t we all need to be at our highest, best health level to deal with all what is going on?

Panic won’t work, stress only diminishes our immune system.

The only thing that does work is to make sure our body and mind are as strong as possible.

Make an annual planning for holidays, weekend breaks, …

If you don’t plan it, you won’t do it!

Before you know it, the summer is there and you will have been working non-stop.

Book weekends, make plans and actually do fun things.

You decide what is fun for you.

It does not always have to cost money,

Just make sure, you are energized!

Unplug!

Make time!

Take a break!

I wish you all a healthy week, and make those plans!

It will make you stronger and

You’ll already have a smile on your face just by planning it!

Thank you all for reading me!

Katrien

www.lifecoachwomen.be

I often re-read this saying, which is hanging on the wall of my office:

“Don’t let the world change your smile,

Let your smile change the world!”

That is for me my life’s motto!

We are surrounded

by negativity,

by people being grumpy,

by unkindness,

by problems,

by fear,

….

I know.

But it is up to you how you deal with it!

What are you going to do about it?

How are you going to react to it?

This is completely up to you, it is your choice

AND it will make a world of difference!

You either,

go along with the negativity,

complain about everything and everyone,

see yourself as a victim of circumstances,

be angry all the time

And

you will feel miserable,

you will feel down,

you’ll have no energy,

you may have trouble sleeping,

you may get sick,

your body will start acting up and will be giving you a hard time.

Bref, you’ll feel like shit.

OR

You can keep on smiling, (even though that is not always easy, I know),

You can search for solutions for your problem(s),

You can ask for help where you are stuck, (nobody said you have to do everything all by yourself!)

You can focus on what does go well in your life:

Yes, there is ALWAYS something going well:

For starters: you are alive, you are not hungry, you have a roof over your head, …

And if you have the courage to ask for help, you’ll be surprised by whom will stand up to help you; just ASK!

Look for the positive things and you’ll start noticing them!

There’s this game they often play during seminars on focus:

“Look around you and observe all the items in the room that are red and memorize them.

Then they ask you to close your eyes and to name all the items in the room that are …. BLUE!

At best you have noticed one or two but you were so focused on finding all the red that you did not see the blue items.”

And that’s exactly how it works in life:

When you’re are focusing on all the negative around you,

It’s all you see!

Luckily that also works for when you are looking for the positive in your life!

Keep smiling!

Literally put a smile on your face.

That alone brings you on a higher vibration and you’ll attract all things on that same, higher frequency!!! (= the law of attraction)

Let your smile change the world!!

The more ‘good things’ you do/say/think, the more positive energy you will send out, and

The more ‘good things’ that will come to you!

Know that even if you can’t change certain situations, you always have the choice of how to deal with it!

Negative people?

You can’t change them, you can only act from the knowledge that negative people are unhappy and,

what they need the most is positive, warm reactions; not hatred or harsh reactions.

Huge problem?

Look at it closely, break it down into manageable problems/items, see what you can solve, see who can help you and for the parts you can’t do anything about: let it go and move on, no use dragging negative baggage if you can’t do anything about it.

Elevate your energy so that you are strong to handle anything that comes your way.

Make time to do things that make you feel happy:

Listen to upbeat music,

Turn your face to the sun,

Breathe in the fresh, crisp morning air,

Use your favorite fragrance,

Give somebody a warm hug: yes, a cat, a dog, a horse, … counts too!

Have a cup of coffee or tea,

Watch a funny video,

Laugh!

Smile!

Go to that higher frequency, and

feel how your heart is growing,

How your energy rises!

That’s how your smile will change the world!

As Mahatma Ghandi says:

“Be the change you want to see in the world!”

You want to see warm, happy people in the world?

Be happy, smile!

Thank you all for reading me and have a wonderful, energetic, positive, uplifting week!!!

Katrien

www.lifecoachwomen.be

Last week, I heard Oprah Winfrey saying:

“You don’t become what you want,

You don’t get what you wish for,

You become what you BELIEVE!”

and I thought it sounded a bit harsh at first.

But then I started munching the words,

thinking about them from all angles, and

when I look at what people achieve, at what I achieved in life,

I do believe this is absolutely true!

You become what you believe!

People can say a thousand times:

“you should do this or that, I know you’ll be good at it”,

it is only when you, yourself, start believing you CAN do it,

that you will, actually and successfully, start doing it!

Of course, first of all,

you have to know what you want,

That’s a given.

And most of the time, we do know what we want but

we don’t believe it is possible for us,

we don’t dare to believe we could actually succeed in this.

We think others can do it, but not us.

That’s where we sign up for failure!

We don’t believe in it!

Yes, I know, I hear you:

“How can I believe in it when all the ‘signs’ say I will never succeed?”

Ok, tell me, what signs?

Your own fears?

Your own convictions of failure?

Your earlier experiences?

What signs??

Analyze them without fear,

look at the situation as if nothing could go wrong.

What would you want to be if you knew nothing could go wrong?

What do you need to know to achieve this?

What do you need to learn?

Who do you need to help you get there?

Make a list of all the things you have to do, to be on your way to success.

Once you’ve listed it, it gets more tangible.

Ok, you’ re still going to be scared out of your wits but at least you will know what you can do about it!

“Action is worry’s worst enemy!!”

Take one step at a time!

After each step you will feel yourself a little closer to where you want to be, in other words, you will start BELIEVING you can and will get there!

Picture yourself, already successfully doing what it is you want to become,

Believe you can do it,

Take all the necessary steps to move towards you goal, towards your dream.

Keep moving!

Never stop believing you will get there!

Ask for help when you feel yourself wavering, or getting stuck.

Visualize your end result,

Feel the wonderful feeling of achieving it, living it!

Become so enchanted with that ‘new life’,

that you will do EVERYTHING it takes to get there!

Dream it,

Believe it,

Achieve it!!

Believe in your dream and go after it with everything you have!

That’s it for this week,

I wish you your dream:

Believe in it, never falter!!

Yes, you can!!!!!

Thank you all for reading me and see you next week!

Namaste,

Katrien

www.lifecoachwomen.be

Last week we talked about making an inventory of everything you have.

I don’t know how far you got,

But to most of us,

It’s an almost impossible job….

That’s how much stuff we own!!!

And still, most of us are already thinking of buying something new, one of these days…!!!

So, whether you have your list or half a list or none,

It doesn’t matter, you can start minimizing today!

The exercise was to make you realize, the HUGE amount of stuff you own.

Now it’s time to really get started!

Why do I need to minimize, I hear some of you asking?

Well, maybe you don’t realize it right now, but

stuff eats up so much of your energy,

stuff owns you!

First of all, in a full room, the energy cannot flow freely, it gets blocked by all the things standing, hanging there and that’s an unhealthy place to live in.

Secondly, stuff weighs you down; we feel tired all the time and we can’t figure out why…

Just do the test:

Open a very full closet and look at it:

you feel immediately demoralized, tired and you just want to close it as quickly as possible.

Plus,

you can hardly find what you are looking for

or

you don’t even know all the things that are hidden in it…

and you end up buying stuff that is somewhere to be found in your house.

Now open a well-organized closet:

a closet where there is still empty space visible.

You will feel happy, energetic

AND

you know what is in the closet because you can actually SEE everything!

Hence you find what you are looking for.

Only happy and positive feelings!

Now you know why.

(in a nutshell of course, I am writing a whole book about how to declutter your life, I hope it will get published by the end of the year)

Here is how you can start minimizing your stuff.

(don’t just organize your clutter, get rid of it!)

You can go room by room, or closet by closet.

That is up to you.

Make 3 piles of everything that is in the space you are decluttering,

Yes, of EVERYTHING!!

Nothing may be left in a drawer or on a shelve.

Pile 1: trash, you throw it out, it is not useful to anyone anymore.

Pile 2: transfer: you don’t use/wear it anymore, you have more than one of it, ….

You give it to charity, to whoever will actually use it!

Don’t keep it for “maybe one day, I’ll use it again”.

No, “maybe someday “becomes never!

Pile 3: here are only the things you really use, really wear, the things you absolutely adore and make you happy, so in other words, your treasures.

Get the stuff of pile 1 and 2 out of your house within the week!!!!

Or you will start organizing your clutter in just another space in your house!

Out with it!

That is what gives you your space and energy back!

Pile 3 is what you keep and as so much stuff is gone now; you have the space to organize it in a way

you actually see what you have,

you can actually enjoy looking and using what you have/like.

It’s scary in the beginning, I know, but once you’ve started, you’re going to be hooked!!! I promise!

The joy afterwards is so rewarding, you’ll keep on downsizing your stuff!

The funny thing is, when you only have what you need and actually use,

you always find what you need and so it feels as if you have more!

You know what you have,

You like what you have (so you have always ‘something-to-wear’!:-)),

What you have, actually fits you and your current lifestyle.

Only winners and winning feelings!

Take a good look at your list and discover what part of your house is in greatest need of a thorough decluttering day.

Work your way through it, piece by piece, room by room and before you know it,

Your house will feel light, organized,

And you will feel happy, rich, content and full of energy!

That feeling will keep you on track.

Whenever you consider buying yet another thing:

Stop yourself, think about it for a few moments, ask yourself this:

Do I need it? Yes or No.

Yes. (when ‘no’ it’s easy not to buy it)

Do I already have it or something similar? Yes or No.

No.

Will it make me happy? Yes or No.

Yes.

How long will it keep me happy? Just on this one occasion or for a very long period of time?

….

You get my drift.

Be very conscious before you buy.

Wait a week, a couple of weeks even, before buying it and most of the time your “need” goes away!

Even when you do actually need something:

consider renting it, or buying second hand, or lending or borrowing it from somebody.

If we all share what we have, not everyone has to own all that stuff.

Together we can make our planet:

a healthier place by not ‘over-consuming’ as much,

a lovelier place by not granting ‘stuff” such an important role.

I wish you all a very interesting journey through your stuff!

Don’t hold on for sentimental reasons, it’s only stuff,

only keep what you actually enjoy!

You don’t need stuff to keep your memories alive.

Clean out your clutter and breathe in the lightness!

Feel free to contact me when you are stuck, when you think the job is too overwhelming. I am happy to provide guidance (in English, Dutch or French) on your journey to an organized, clean, happy house, hence life!

Good luck!!

Katrien

katrien@lifecoachwomen.be

www.lifecoachwomen.be

Always buying more,

never having enough.

Always gathering more stuff,

never satisfied.

But does this really make us happy? Content even?

No, not at all.

Will Rogers said:

“Too many people spend money they haven’t earned,

To buy things they don’t want,

To impress people they don’t even like.”

Waw, that makes you halt for a minute, doesn’t it?

Do you have the courage to look deep into your heart,

to be completely honest with yourself?

Don’t we all buy stuff because:

it looks good to have it,

other people have it,

we think we need it

marketeers say: “we will be so much happier with that specific item in our lives”; “our life will be so much easier when having that item at our disposal.”

And at the end of the day, we realize that:

Our house is fuller

Our wallet is emptier

We feel overwhelmed by stuff

We have less energy and we don’t know why

Our heart is not more fulfilled

Our ego is not quieter

In fact, it is already saying we need the next new thing.

How can we stop this inflow of stuff that does not even make us happier?

Start with:

Becoming quiet,

taking your time to be very honest with yourself

and making an inventory of:

What you have right now

What you actually need right now (and I mean really need)

How your present life looks like.

Then prepare to get rid of everything:

you don’t need,

that is broken or is not complete anymore

of which you have doubles or triples of,

that does not fit into your present life anymore.

Make room, clear the clutter, clear the excess.

Know why YOU want certain things.

Make sure it is contributing to your well-being and not to your ego.

Stop buying to impress people!

It’s not only costing you money and energy,

It never works anyway!

When is enough, enough?

When is more, more enough?

When does more stuff make you impressive enough?

Important enough?

Never!!!!!!

Focus on being more

Friendly,

Compassionate,

Grateful,

Conscious,

Silent,

Helping….That is:

How you will become more beautiful,

How people will like you more,

How people will be impressed by you,

why people will admire and appreciate you.

Becoming the above is the only way to make your life, a life worth living.

Stop focusing on stuff, and start focusing on being kind.

That is what I wish for you all this week!

Clear a slot in your agenda to sit down and to make an inventory of your ‘material life’.

Take your time,

be thorough,

be honest (don’t let your ego do the talking!!).

you need far less than you ever could have imagined!

Once you’ve cleared your ‘clutter’, your excess,

once you have a very clear vision of what makes you happy and what not,

Once you start living with only the things YOU like and need,

you will be overwhelmed (in a good way!) by the huge wave of

feeling free,

feeling relaxed,

feeling light,

feeling unchained,

that will come crushing over you!

So, for now:

Block your agenda,

Take pen and paper

And start inventorying!

Next week, we will deal with your list (or half your novel…)

Good luck and lots of courage!!

Katrien

www.lifecoachwomen.be

Rush, rush, rush,

We all ‘fly’ through life!

But do we actually ‘live’ life?

Take your time to enjoy everything you do!

Yes, everything!

I know, there are things we ‘d rather not do, but we have to do them anyway.

This is also an invitation to take a close look at all the things you do.

Be very aware of what is absolutely necessary and what is not.

If something is not necessary and you don’t like doing it, then stop doing it!

Simple.

Yes, you can stop this because it is not necessary!

And for the things that are necessary, well

You then either, be grumpy and you are doing those things whilst complaining and whining and feeling unhappy all the time,

or you do them and say, well as I have to do them anyway, I can at least make the best of it and be happy I am alive and healthy enough to be able to do them.

You always have a choice!

Always!

I came across a beautiful poem about ‘time’ the other day and I would like to share it with you.

Take time to work,

as it is the price for success.

Take time to think,

As it is the source of true power.

Take time to play,

As it is the secret of youth.

Take time to read,

As it is the foundation of knowledge.

Take time to be friendly,

As it is the door to being happy.

Take time to love,

As it is the true joy of life.

Take time to be cheerful,

As it is music to your soul.

Let’s all take time!

Time to breathe,

Time to listen,

Time to observe,

Time to enjoy,

Time to rest,

Time to….

Live!

I wish you all a very ‘time-full’ week (as in ‘with plenty of time’)!

Make time to enjoy your life and your loved ones!

You choose!

Choose wisely!

By for now, see you next week for my next blog!

Thank you all for reading me.

Katrien

www.lifecoachwomen.be

Intentions

Did you set any intentions at the beginning of this new year?

Yes?

And how do you feel about them after one month?

Are they still standing?

Do you still believe in them?

Do you still believe you can reach them?

Yes?

Perfect!!

Keep going in the direction of your intentions!

No?

Why not?

What changed?

Don’t you believe in them anymore?

Why not?

Don’t you believe you can reach them?

Why not?

What made you change your mind?

Did you fall back into old habits?

Everyone knows that:

To accomplish something new, something different in your life,

you have to do something different.

Because when you keep doing the same things over and over again, you will reach the same result over and over again! That’s a given!

So in order to obtain a new result,

you will have to change your life, change your behavior.

Yes, “but how?”  you’ re asking me now.

Well,

First of all:

Take a good look at your intention:

is this what you really want in your life?

No, well then you need to adjust your intentions so that you have a very clear view of what it is that you do want in life.

Yes, OK! Great!

Create a very clear vision of how your life will look like once you’ve made those intentions a reality.

Visualize this “new life” in detail, over and over again so that you fall in love with the new you, with your new life.

Once you really love who you will become and how your new life will look like, you will do everything it takes to create this new life in the real world.

Make a plan, make a ‘how-to-get-there’ in detail so that you know exactly what to do. Believe you will reach it.

If you have a clear vision of how to go step by step, it will make it easier for you to keep following that path.

Keep your vision clear, keep visualizing what it is you want.

Then you will always know what to do when you are about to fall back into old habits.

Baby steps make it easier to keep going,

even when you feel like giving up or giving in into the old ways.

Make sure you know what you want and WHY!

Believe you will get there!

Your ‘why’ must be very strong and it must be YOUR why.

Doing something just:

To please someone

To get accepted in a certain company

Because it ‘looks good’ (to whom???)

Because other people are doing so

…..

Will never last!

You have to know why you want to do this, why you want to live this certain way.

Otherwise it will never last!

Otherwise you will fall back into your “old ways” at the first obstacle you will encounter!

So keep your WHY alive and kicking!

Here is your action plan to get where you want to get:

Set a very clear intention.

Know why you set this.

Change your thoughts into thoughts that reflect your new beliefs

Keep repeating those thoughts until they are your new “standard” thoughts.

Enjoy the feelings that come along with those great new beliefs.

Start doing only the things that lead you along the path to your new life, stop doing things that will derail you from it.

Keep doing what keeps you on track until that becomes your new and automatic modus operandi!

That’s how you will get to live the life of your intentions!I wish you all a very clear vision, a huge stamina, and the discipline to go step by step every single day

until you’ve reached your goal, your ‘new life’,

until your intention has become a reality!

Then enjoy it and be proud of yourself!

Namaste!

Katrien

www.lifecoachwomen.be

Beauty.

What is beauty?

What do we call beautiful?

I was listening to Anita Moorjani the other day and she had an interesting observation about beauty:

“Beauty is what remains beautiful when eyesight is taken out of the equation”

I thought about it for a while and that rang true to me.

It’s not that art and beautiful things do not exist and that we cannot enjoy art, no absolutely not.

But what if no one, in the whole world, could see,

what we then would consider as beautiful, is true beauty.

Beauty is what we feel, not what we see.

Seeing beauty is very quickly about shallow, trivial beauty.

But what we feel as beautiful, remains beautiful, is true beauty.

What does beauty feel like?

For me that is:

Feeling the love of somebody,

Feeling the warmth of true friendship,

Feeling the compassion for other living beings and helping them, being there for them, caring for them.

Feeling the connection with the universe,

Feeling the blissful quiet of silence,

Feeling the pureness of nature:

breathing in the fresh air, feeling the warmth of the sun on your face, feeling the refreshing water of the ocean, …

Feeling the balm of meditation,

The list is endless, you can all find a whole bunch of things that make you feel beauty. You know: that warm feeling inside, that feeling of “everything is good”, that feeling of connectedness, of “knowing” everything will be all right, that feeling of your heart opening up and expanding, that feeling of positives vibes, of pure energy flowing through you.

I would like to suggest that everyone makes their own list this week.

A list of things that expand your energy, of things that give you that feeling of ‘beauty’.

By doing so, you will already feel, experience that there is a lot of beauty in your life!

And in realizing how blessed you are, you will start feeling grateful for all those beautiful experiences, all those beautiful people, …. in your life.

This feeling of gratefulness will make you happy, thankful, joyful = feeling beauty.

This will shift your perception on beauty.

All the material beauty, all the physical beauty will become a lot less important.

And that will set you free!

Isn’t that what we all long for, to feel free, to feel that we are enough, that we are OK?

Feeling true beauty sets you free!

So grab that pen and paper and start making your list of all the beauty in your life!

You’ll be amazed with what you will find!

I wish you all a very ‘beautiful’ week and enjoy the energy that will start flowing through your body thanks to those wonderful experiences.

Katrien

www.lifecoachwomen.be

I heard the following quote of Dr. Wayne Dyer in a video the other day:

“Be a host to God or

be a hostage to your ego”

I always say love instead of God but that is just semantics, because God is Love.

It’s just what you prefer.

“Be a host to love or be a hostage to your ego”

Waw! Isn’t that beautiful:

To be a host to love,

To let love live inside you,

To be love,

To make your life, a life filled with love.

I recommend it -from the bottom of my heart- to you all, try it, give it a go, and then see what happens…

I know it is not easy, because we are so used to living

from the ego,

from old beliefs,

from a default mode which is not love.

If we look closely at how we react to life, it is safe to say that our ego’s rule the world….

We get upset because:

Somebody reacted in a way we did not appreciate… how dare they…???

Uhh, we do not control other people’s reactions so, why let it rule our peace of mind?

We get upset because:

We didn’t get what we expected…

Who is responsible for your expectations…?? Yes, the one and only: YOU.

We get upset because:

people don’t feel how we want them to feel…

Well, I don’t know about you but I can’t change somebody’s feelings… I can be nice to someone but I can never guarantee their reaction, that’s their responsibility.

We get upset by so many things that are out of our control and basically it is plain stupid to let that rule our peace of mind.

But here we are, living from our ego:

Our ego that “says” what we are entitled to, what is right and wrong, how people should behave, ….

All of our ‘beliefs’ that are put there by education, experiences, society, …

But are they true?

Do they make us happy?

No!!

We are upset all the time!!

Somebody “stole” my parking place

Somebody “stole” my job

Somebody was mean to me

Somebody is more beautiful than me, is richer than me, is healthier than me, …

And so on and so forth, the ego goes on and on, ….

We really are a hostage to our ego!!

STOP this ego driven life!!

Be a host to love!!!!!!!!!

It’s not easy because we are not used to it, we are programmed to react from the ego.

But try it, little step by little step.

Make every day the decision to live from love,

to be a host to love!

Let’s try the following things:

Every time you hear people talking ill of others,

disengage, walk away.

Every time you think ill of somebody,

change that thought into a loving thought (nobody is 100% “bad”, you can always -yes always- find something positive about them)

And that includes you too!

Every time you are thinking ill of yourself,

change it and send a positive thought through your mind.

Every time you start blaming, complaining,

stop yourself and think, what can I do about this to change it.

If it’s in your power, do it, otherwise stop complaining as you can’t do anything about it anyway.

Remove anger because anger is the absence of love (= quote of Dr Wayne Dyer)

Practice compassion!

The Dalai Lama says:

“If every 8 year old, all over the world, would meditate on compassion for 1 hour/week, we would eradicate all hate and acts of violence over one generation’s time.

I’d say: it’s worth the try, no?

Start practicing compassion! You never know somebody’s story, so be nice to people, to animals, to all.

Become humble, it’s really not about us, individuals.

As I said in last week’s blog: we are just a blip in the whole universe, we are all connected, there are no individuals, we are all part of the ONEness.

When love lives inside you, you feel grateful, you don’t need more because you appreciate what you have, you are content.

Being a host to love, is being generous, sharing.

We have more than enough.

I’ve already said it many times in previous blogs: take a good look around your house and you’ll see tons of stuff you can give away. Share!

You’ll feel so much better, lighter, brighter.

You will become a being of light!

And light makes darkness go away…

I know it is not easy in the beginning but:

baby steps,

it’s really all about making a decision and then go in that direction, every single day!

You’ll trip, you’ll fall into the ego trap again. For sure!

Everybody still does from time to time.

But remember your decision and stop yourself, think about being a host to love and go from there.

Nobody is perfect!

The more you practice, the less frequent you will fall down again!

And the shorter you will “stay down” in your ego reality.

You will recognize your behavior and as you made a decision to live from love, you will be able to quickly shift again to your higher self, to being a host to love again.

I believe in love being the ultimate goal of life!

I wish you all a wonderful, loving, heartwarming week!!

Let’s be all a HOST TO LOVE!!!

Namaste

Katrien

www.lifecoachwomen.be