Get your priorities straight; all else are excuses.

Does this sound harsh to you?

Sorry but it’s the truth.

Life is all about priorities!

You have to figure out what is –without any question- the most important thing in your life!

As in,

without doing this, I am not the person who I want to be

without doing this, I won’t feel good about myself

without doing this, I will lay awake during the night wondering what if I only…

So, I ask you to take the time to write down

what is an absolute must in your life,

how you want to live your life

what you want to be remembered for by your loved ones

what makes you who you are

what you absolutely want to have done in your life.

This you can do whenever you find some silence.

This can be:

At night, before you go to bed, when you write down in your journal what made you happy today, what made a difference today. Just stay a little longer in this moment of reflection and dedicate a page of your journal to ponder upon your priority.

Or it can be on holiday, when you’re in nature and you hear your own voice whispering, in the silence, what really matters most to you

Or it can be when you’re meditating.

Choose your own place of silence and listen!

Really get to the bottom of things.

Don’t just write down some generalities but be really very specific about what and why this is a priority in your life.

Priority was a word that did not exist in plural, only now we’ve created priorities –plural!

This is not a good thing because your mind will say: hey I can’t do all this, I have no time, I have to do this first….

And yes, that’s absolutely true! You have to choose! But not between priority 1 and 2 and 3 and 4,…

No, choose what is your number 1 priority!

What works for me is: I commit to 1 absolute priority on a professional level and 1 absolute priority on a personal level.

And when at a certain point, there is a conflict between those two, choose the one which will leave you with the least regret !

When you make your personal priority as important as your professional one, your life will automatically become balanced! And isn’t this what we are all looking for in our life? Balance, harmony,..

I am not telling you what YOU have to choose, all I am saying is:

Know what is your absolute top priority and live accordingly!

It’s the only way you can live a life with no regrets!

We are all making life very complicated by saying:

I have to…( really? says who?)

I must….( what if there was an accident and people had to figure it out without you; we overrate the need for our presence all the time)

I have no time….(what if you only had 1 day to live: would you choose to do this “emergency” or would you choose the thing you had no time to do)

I can’t…(yes you can, what if your life was threatened, you would be surprised of what immense forces you could muster in yourself)

I all want you to give yourself this gift in life:

find out what gives you peace of mind, what gives you a good feeling about yourself

and make room in your life to do these things!!!

We only live once, make it a good life, a life that you can be proud of, that you can look back upon with as little regrets as possible.

I know

it’s not easy, but it’s simple

and taking the time to reflect will already make a huge change in your life!

Take it one step at a time, don’t be too harsh on yourself if you slip up. As long as you are conscious of your number 1 priority and live up to it as much as you can.

You will feel the difference in your belly between

trying your best or making excuses.

Your body doesn’t lie, just be courageous enough to listen to it.

Wishing you the silence, the inspiration, the force to be who you are deep down!

Thank you so much for letting me inspire you and for taking the time to take a deep breath, look at your life and at where you want to go.

And that’s exactly what I am going to do too for the next couple of weeks! I’ll go into nature, find silence, get inspired, get my body and mind refreshed, and focus for a few weeks exclusively on my personal priority!

See you back in September!

Katrien

 

 


The day you start living just as you,

only comparing yourself to who and what you were yesterday,

that’s the day you’ll start feeling real, start feeling a calm settling in life, start knowing where you belong, start experiencing happiness!

You are who you are,

Get to know yourself,

Get to know the real you

And love yourself for it!

Appreciate

who you are

where you are in life

what you’ve accomplished so far!

You are where you need to be right now!

Life is like a book: you need to read every page to learn the whole story! And then you’ll understand and appreciate the story all the more!

Even when you feel you can do better, when you want some things to change in your life: you still are where you need to be in this very moment.

You learn through every experience and it will make you stronger and wiser so that you can take the next step of your journey.

Only look at where your path is going, at what you want to become.

Even when people disagree, advise against it,..

Know what you want, WHY you want it and as long as you are not hurting anyone, go for it.

Consider very carefully your why and your how and if you are truly convinced it is not damaging anyone or anything, do it!

Mostly people will advise against something because they are scared to go after what they want in their life, because they play safe. Which is totally ok if that’s their choice in life, but don’t let yourself be discouraged by them. Don’t let them hold you back!

Nobody is standing in your shoes,

Nobody knows exactly what you are thinking or feeling!

Of course you can always listen to people who lived similar experiences but even then: listen, learn and then decide what YOU will do!

Every situation is different,

Every person is different.

Only compare yourself with your old you!

Grow,

become YOUR dream,

be proud of yourself,

forgive yourself for your mistakes and become a better person because of those mistakes.

Nobody becomes a wise, beautiful person without living, making mistakes, … That’s what life is all about!

Live and react out of love!

Don’t judge and don’t let yourself be judged!

People who judge, do so because of THEIR past experiences, not because of you!

When we see, hear,…something our brain immediately searches for similar experiences so that it will know how to react. But that is a reaction based on a past experience! Not necessarily helpful in the current situation!

So therefor train your brain to stand down, observe with a completely open mind, consider all the possible angles and then react from a compassionate point of view.

Creating these new connections, this new habit of treating every situation as new, is the best gift you can give yourself!

Meditating, being mindful helps to train these new connections in the brain.

You’ll also start taking things less and less personal because you can see that people react from THEIR personal, past experiences and that makes all the difference in the world!

You’ll see them for who they are, appreciate them for who and what they are, and you’ll stop comparing, judging, trying to control their reactions, ..

They live their life,

have their opinions,

make their choices,

And that’s OKAY!

An immense calmness,

an immense silence in your head,

a very clear image

of who you want to be

of how you want your life to look like,

arises once you’ve stopped comparing yourself with other people.

That clear vision not only makes you feel happy, it also gives you a huge strength to go after what you consider important and valuable!

It also makes you a better person because

you’ve stopped judging other people,

you are kinder to others,

you’ve become more tolerant,…

And guess what: this way of living really is contagious:

Kindness generates kindness

Tolerance generates tolerance

Non aggression generates non aggression

So my call to all is:

Become silent enough

to hear what you want,

to learn who you really are

and

Live YOUR life in a respectful, loving, compassionate way!

Discover yourself and ENJOY what you find!!

Thank you all for reading my blogs, sharing and liking them..!!!!

Katrien


What if you were to die tomorrow?

What would you do today?

Who would you want to see?

Where would you want to be?

Who would you want to send a message to?

What would your regrets be?

What would you wish you had done more of?

What would you wish you had done less of?

An interesting way to find out what your real priorities are in life, isn’t it?

A bit macabre, I admit, but very effective!!

Sit down, go to a quiet place, and meditate upon these questions.

It will provide you with an absolute clarity on what is important to you, and I mean really important, “meaningful life” important.

It will immediately give you a huge feeling of calmness over the daily trivial things that you get so worked up about.

Looking at it from a more optimistic angle, you can ask yourself:

“What in 10 years time will I still remember of the things I got so frustrated about today?”

“Will they still matter?”

I think we can safely assume that at least 90% won’t be worth remembering. And 99% won’t be worth fretting about anymore.

So let it go, don’t give the little nuisances of life the energy you are giving it now.

Where energy flows, things grow: so give it no energy and there is nothing to be all worked up about.

Give all your energy to the good things in your life, to the things you like, to the people you love and your life will become a lot lighter and brighter!

Remember that every minute, every hour gone by, is a minute, an hour that never returns! Make the best of it! You can’t rewind time and do it better the second time around.

All you can do is:

Start right now, start this very minute

to live your best possible you!

Make yourself proud, be your hero, be your best self and you’ll never regret another minute in your life!!!

Do you need to be perfect? No way!!

Do you need to have all the answers right this minute? Not possible!

Aren’t you allowed to make any mistakes anymore? No, you are human, making mistakes is in our nature.

As long as you:

are your best,

do your best,

speak your best,

As long as you:

are humble,

are not judgemental,

and learn from past mistakes,

you’ll be okay.

Then you can live your life with your mind at ease, and when the time comes, you won’t regret a single thing.

I hope that moment won’t come any time soon and that you can start doing what you’ve always wanted to but never got around to it.

And remember, no one knows when his/her time is up, so don’t waste another minute.

Thank you all for reading my articles, liking them, sharing them! You can also find articles of mine on Medium! You support my work by clapping for these articles on Medium.

Grateful as always!

Katrien


 This is something worth considering for a moment, isn’t it?

As we are the only person we can’t get away from, who we have to live our entire life with, who we can never take a break from,…. we better have a very good relationship with ourselves then, don’t we?

Are we our worst enemy?

Yes! I am afraid so.

Who keeps nagging at you when things didn’t go as you planned?

Who tries to remind you time and time again that you are not able to do so and so, not able to reach your objective, that you are not good enough…?

Who has the harshest words when you failed at something,…?

Who keeps telling you that maybe you could have done this or that, should have done so and so,…

I think some of these things sound familiar, don’t they?

Well, if they do, it’s time to become friends with that enemy inside! Become friends with YOU!

Because when all is said and done, we have to find peace with ourselves!

As I said, you can’t take a break from yourself!

Learn to love yourself for who you are,

accept who you are with your flaws,

embrace your successes and learn from your failures.

Know that perfection does not exist ( my God wouldn’t that be boring: all “Stepford wifes”) and that never in your whole life you will be loved and liked by everybody.

And that’s all right!

Just make sure that you are there for you!

Don’t be too demanding,

Know that you’re a work in progress!

As long as you make sure you are in progress!

Love your body through

eating healthy food,

exercising,

sleeping, …

Treat your body as your companion through life! Make sure it’s in optimal condition to travel the journey of life!

Keep your mind as healthy as possible too:

Don’t feed it with “junk” either:

read,

watch,

learn…

things that open your mind to great ideas, to a positive mindset

meditate to become still, to take the time to be who you are when all the hussle quiets down.

Stress poisons the mind and slowly kills the body:

so calm down,

take a few moments to gather yourself

live intentionally, not reactively.

Be your best friend in every way possible!!!

Treat yourself as you treat the people you love most in the world!

Be you

Love you

You are enough!

Thank you so much for reading my blog! Like it as much as you want, share it, find me on Medium and there you can express your likes in claps.

As always, I am so grateful for your support!!

Katrien


 

Change

Goals

A different life

Your ideal life

Do you want this?

Do you really want this?

Are you sure?

What are you willing to give up for it?

Nothing?

Than you don’t really want it!

You don’t want it bad enough.

If you don’t start doing things differently, you can’t have a different life! Period!

This may seem harsh, but it’s the truth!

Make a list of what you value most in your life, and then consider what you are willing to give up in life in order to achieve those things you value more.

It all comes down to this simple exercise: look at what you value most and then get rid of the things in your life that you value less.

Make space to achieve what you want in life.

Even if it scares the hell out of you!

It will feel uncomfortable in the beginning, uneasy, weird, … you’ll start doubting if that is what you really want. But that’s the little voice of fear you are hearing. Fear of the unknown. Don’t let it tell you what to do or not to do.

As Leonardo di Caprio puts it: “ Every next level of your life, requires a different you!”

To achieve the change you want in your life:

Make it very clear what it is you want to achieve.

This can be anything from something personal, to something on a professional level.

Start with one change at a time and break it up in little steps.

Do every day this little step towards your goal, no excuses, every day! Set triggers, reminders, … whatever it takes to make sure you stay on track.

 

You have to continue this new habit/ behaviour/ action until it has become a habit. This can take 30 days up to 60 days. Take your time!

You can’t create real change in 1 week!!

Once you start doing this new behaviour out of habit, you can add something:

Either you increase the action in time or in numbers:

for instance:

you do 10 more push ups,

you drink 1l of water instead of the 2 glasses you are used to,

you meditate 15 minutes instead of the 10 you are now already feeling comfortable with,

you count to 10 instead of 5 before you react in a situation,

you check you emails every 40 minutes instead of every 20 minutes….

Once you’ve achieved what you intended to, than you can look at another aspect of your life you want to change

You can achieve whatever you REALLY want to achieve.

Be very clear about what it is you want to reach. Just break it down in small enough steps and create new habits.

Get rid of old habits because you can have ANYthing but you can’t have EVERYthing!!

It’s all up to you and only you!!!

You want it? Really want it?

Make the change!

Wishing you all the courage to start making changes! Because it takes courage to overcome the fear of the unknown! Be humble enough to let go of old habits, and to be open for new ones!

Thank you so much for reading me and good luck!!

Help others start taking their first step by spreading my blog: share it, like it, retweet it,…

a very grateful,

Katrien


Be real

Be pure

Be honest

Speak from who you really are

Act upon your words

Get rid of the masks

Get rid of the stories

Just be yourself, with victories and failures.

By being the unperfect you, others will feel so much more comfortable around you!

They will have the courage to drop their masks too

Wouldn’t that be just great?

Gone with

all the masquerade

all the falseness

all the whipped up stories

all the fake

all the hurt caused by trying to reach the unreachable “perfect” life

I like what Tony Robbins says about perfection:

“ If the standard you live by is perfection, you live by no standard at all!”

You can never reach perfection so live by a standard that you can live up to!

When people feel you are real, they will trust you.

Where there is trust, there is gentleness, kindness.

When people feel you don’t judge, they will respect your opinion, no matter whether they agree or not.

That’s kind of my ”ideal world”, or that’s the world I choose to live in:

Being real, honest, respectful, not judging, always open to learn, …

Once you start living this way, it’s amazing how more peaceful life becomes, how much happier you feel and how people feel at ease with you, hence you feel at ease with them.

So everybody benefits from true, kind, real people.

Start this very moment, what’s keeping you?

Wishing you all an honest, open and pure life!!

Thank you so much for reading my blogs, liking/ sharing them on Facebook, Twitter or LinkedIn.

Katrien


 

Silence

Silence is home

Silence is where you find yourself, find truth, find wisdom …..

Silence is where you learn how to take action

And yet, it seems that most of us are afraid of silence…

Why?

What are you so afraid of?

Why do you keep hiding in noise, in all kinds of distractions??

Are you afraid of hearing the real you?

Are you afraid of the answers you might hear to your unspoken questions?

The holidays are coming up and it really is the ideal moment to go and find silence.

I urge you to go into nature, find peace and quiet.

We are part of nature and when you spend time in nature, you will experience that feeling of ‘coming home’ because that is where we truly belong!

Let nature and it’s silence rejuvenite you!

Become entirely still and listen…

Meditating/ being still is a journey of

really getting to know yourself,

seeing your path more clearly,

seeing what it is you are really longing for in life,

seeing what your obstacles are.

“Als de geest ontspannen is, komt hij tot rust; als water niet beroerd wordt, wordt het helder.” Gampopa, Tibetan teacher

It is no wonder pill, it’s not a highway to heaven,

but it’s a way that takes you

to where you grow,

to where you see yourself for who you truly are, for what you stand for, for what you are willing to fight for,

to where you see what really matters to you.

Meditating is a process, it’s something that you make a habit of and then after a while you start feeling the benefits!

Even on days where you didn’t have the stillness in your mind you were hoping for, it still helped you.

Practice every day and your brain will transform into a much quieter place, a less reactive, less explosive mind.

( it is scientifically proven that the connections in your brain change through meditation)

This gives you the opportunity to make space in your life, to get rid of the clutter in your head, and around you.

You will find yourself taking a step back, reacting more calmly when otherwise you were already jumping the gun.

Less impulsive reactions means

less regrets,

wiser decisions,

more calmness,

less pain and suffering. ( for you and for the ones around you)

You will feel the energy flowing and that is what happiness really means: growing, feeling alive, feeling energetic.

Find your silence and it will be the best holiday ever!!!

You will never have had so much energy after a week or two weeks of vacation.

Wishing you

a silent place in nature,

your sanctuary,

your source!!

Thank you so much for reading me!!!

Love you all!

Katrien


Blue skies…

Don’t we all like them?

Don’t we all want to see them all the time?

What if we would know that they are always there?

And they are, you know.

We just don’t see them,

we don’t want to see them,

we don’t believe in them when the going gets tough.

We hold on to what goes wrong in that particular moment.

Once you see those negative things

– of which we will always have some in life because that’s life-

as merely clouds that pass before the sun in that clear blue sky, we will be able to deal with those clouds in a different way.

Because once you realize that they are just clouds, you have faith in the sun above them!

Even the strongest, darkest thunderstorm passes!

The sun is always there in the end!

It’s like flying: first you go through those bumpy cloudy patches and then once above the clouds, surprise – surprise, indeed the sun is shining!

So always remember the sun in your life.

Be grateful for everything you do have,

For all the things that do go well in your life,

For all the problems you are NOT having (and once you start thinking, there are a million things we do NOT have to worry about!)

We forget so easily and therefor it’s good to remind yourself every day of those blessings!

Write them down, be conscious about them, say THANK YOU out loud. I know it will feel silly in the beginning –and maybe you can warn those around you that you are not tripping 🙂 – but seriously, it will put your mind in a positive setting!

When you’re grateful, it becomes more and more difficult to dwell upon the irritations you are feeling. And be honest, most of the time, when you really take a step back, it’s mostly about trivial things we get all worked up about, like :

Who DARED merging into YOUR lane and arrive one split second before you now???

Why haven’t they replied to your email yet? Let’s face it, sometimes you wanted your answer even before the question popped into your mind, no????? Euh.. yes, indeed, be patient, the answer will come…

Why did it have to rain today??? Why today???? Of all days!?

There is nothing in the fridge!? Who ate MY food???

My favourite shirt is dirty…

This coffee is too cold, too hot…

You get my drift!

So let’s all take a deep breath,

Look up to the sky,

See the sun behind those dark clouds,

Believe the good stuff is already in your life!

See it,

Cherish it! It can be gone before you know it and then one day, you will long for what you had today!

Be grateful!

Feel love and compassion instead of anger and irritation.

Life, and you too, will be a lot more fun and a lot easier to deal with!!

Wishing you all a very sunny sky!!! ( visible right now or still hiding behind some clouds)

Thank you all for reading, liking, sharing my blog!!!!!

Katrien


Qui est-ce que j’étais?

Qui est-ce que je suis?

Qui est-ce que je peux être?

On a tous une idée de ce qui on est, mais est-ce la vérité?

Est-ce encore vrai?

Est-ce que cela va toujours être vrai?

Est-ce que on est vraiment ce qu’on pense ce qui on est?

La plupart du temps, les gens se comportent comment ils pensent qu’il faut se comporter pour faire plaisir aux autres.

Tout d’abord cela ne sert à rien! On ne sait jamais ce que les autres pensent, on se sait jamais ce que sont les vraies attentes des gens vis-à-vis de nous.

On a beau à s’ imaginer ce que les autres veulent mais cela n’est qu’une fabrication de notre mental!

En plus, quand on vit une vie qui ne correspond pas à nos propres valeurs, un jour on payera le prix! On se sentira de plus en plus mal dans sa peau.

Vivre en harmonie avec ses valeurs, donne un meilleur estime de soi,

ce qui entraîne un plus grand confiance en soi

ce qui entraîne par la suite un plus grand sentiment de bonheur!

Alors il est très important qu’on ne se fixe pas sur une idée de ce qui on est, ou de ce que les autres nous disent ce qui on est.

Tout est toujours en mouvement, rien n’est fixe!

Notre corps par example change tout le temps et donc on n’a plus les mêmes cellules qu’on avait il y a quelques années! Imagine, on a un corps complètement renouvelé!

Le même est vrai pour nos idées, nos capacités, nos pensées, nos émotions,…

Tout est changeant!

Si par exemple, on se dit, “je suis timide”, cela est basé sur ce qu’on a vécu dans le passé, mais rien n’est fixe, rien n’est permanent!

On peut commencer à s’entraîner à ne plus réagir timidement! Le plus d’expérience qu’on acquérira dans des situations où on a plus de confiance en soi, le plus que cette confiance va grandir!

Après un certain temps, on n’est plus timide!

Rien n’est fixe, tout est variable dans la vie!

Et cela vaut pour tout vos comportements, ce n’est qu’une question de se réaliser qu’on puisse évoquer ce changement et après vous prenez le chemin vers ce nouveau comportement souhaité.

Le jour ou on se réalise vraiment que la vie/ nous/ tous est en mouvement, changement éternel, on voit le champs de possibilités qu’on a dans la vie!

Devenez ce qui vous voulez être! Ne tenez pas à ces croyances limitantes!

Explorez ce champs de possibiltés qui est en vous!!!

Une très bonne façon pour aller se promener sur ce champs est la méditation.

Je vous souhaite tous une très belle pratique, une promenade plein de découvertes et de bonheur!!!

Merci beaucoup pour avoir lu mon blog! Partagez-le si vous l’avez aimé! Merci

Katrien


 

Good stress versus bad stress

Good stress is obviously the positive little pinch we feel before we take on something huge. That only makes us sharper, more competent, more alert. That’s absolutely a good thing! It enhances our performances, it helps us make better decisions. So that is not the problem.

It’s the bad stress that is killing us slowly but steadily

There are a lot of elements causing this stress and today I am going to highlighten just one:

Fatigue.

When we feel fatigued

▶ we feel stressed

▶ we feel more tired

▶we feel even more stress

▶ and so we feel more fatigue…….

Once you’re trapped in this chicken-and-egg situation, you can’t get out easily, you feel yourself evolving from a confident, competent person to a reactive and defensive person.

You worry more

You are feeling heavy

You lack motivation

Your attitude becomes negative and judgmental

Your mind is racing, darts all over the place hence you lack focus

You are always in a rush and yet you complete nothing

Your bodily functions shut down: brainfunction, cellular repair, immune system, digestive system,….

The list is long and depressing…

So one key element to restore that health and calmness is SLEEP!!!

Sleep cleans your brain, refreshes your body and mind.

And yet, nobody takes the 8 hour (or more) sleep which is necessary for our body and mind to function well!

We all want to go through life like a top athlete, but we don’t behave like one. (Roger Federer sleeps 12 hours/day!!)

We keep on pushing and pushing our body and mind without thinking about the necessary rest and recovery they need.

It really is very simple, not easy but simple: you want high performance in life, make sure your body and mind are up for it!!

Prepare yourself with the same ritual every night so your body and mind are ready to go to sleep:

NO screens 1 hour before bedtime ( read a good book, write down what made you happy today, talk to your partner, go for a walk, …)

Keep the same bedtime hours every day of the week

No alcohol, coffee, sugar,… or other stimulants before bedtime

Make sure your room is a place to rest: quiet, calm, no clutter,…

Let in the fresh air so your room feels clean and rejuveniting

You don’t like those bedtime habits???

Just ask yourself: how many more days do you want to ‘wake up’ groggy, stressed, overwhelmed, bad tempered, tired, ….

There’s your answer! Not one single day longer!!!

It’s very simple but it’s not easy in the beginning.

Once you’ve made a habit out of it, it becomes automatic behaviour and it requires less and less effort.

Once you start feeling the benefits of a good night sleep, a rested healthy body, when you start feeling motivated again, energetic, you will ask yourself why did I torture my body for so long by depriving it from it’s much needed sleep!!!

Start tonight! Create this good habit!!

Wishing you all a very good night sleep!!!!!!

Sweet dreams!!!

Thank you so much for reading me, sharing my posts, liking them,…!!!!!

Katrien