The 17-second rule.

We’ve all heard about the Law of Attraction.

We already know the gist of how this works,

but let’s take a closer look at the finesses of it.

In the book “Co-creating at its best”, you can read a conversation between Dr Wayne W. Dyer and Esther Hicks,

based on the collective consciousness, also known as Abraham.

One of the things they talk about in this book, is the 17-second rule.

When you think a certain thought for only 17 seconds, the Law of Attraction will bring you another thought like it.

So now, you have a second, similar, thought and momentum begins to set in.

When you think this new, similar thought for about 17 seconds, again, the Universe will bring you a new similar thought yet again and momentum builds.

And so, the law of attraction continues and when you’ve crossed the threshold of 68 seconds, you’ll stay on the vibrational frequency of those thoughts.

Now, the momentum is very strong and hard to counter.

The longer you think a certain thought, it becomes a habit of thought.

The stronger the habit, the faster it becomes a belief.

Now, the good thing about it, is that it works for both negative, ‘not-serving-you’ thoughts as it does for positive, ‘serving-you’ thoughts.

So, better make sure you build beliefs that are serving you!

The important thing is, first of all, to recognize your thoughts.

Be aware of what you think, of how you talk to yourself in your mind.

Make sure it are your thoughts and not thoughts other people think and therefor make you think them too.

Know what thoughts serve you and which ones don’t.

How can you know that?

Just take a deep breath, become quiet, and

listen to your body when you think a specific thought.

Do you feel your heart expanding?

Do you feel a smile forming on your lips?

Do you feel able to take action?

Then you are thinking positive, serving thoughts,

thoughts that help you to be who you really are,

thoughts that come from your source.

Do you, on the other hand,

feel yourself frowning, while thinking certain thoughts?

Do you feel your energy draining out of you, like the air out of a balloon?

Do you feel unable to act?

Do you feel a victim of circumstances?

Do you feel anger coming up, frustration, guilt, shame?

Then stop that train of thoughts.

It is not helping you at all.

It keeps you on a low vibrational frequency, the frequency of the problem and you’ll never find a solution on that vibration as,

the ‘problem’ and the solution vibrate on different frequencies.

As we were talking about the 17-second rule, the 68-second threshold, momentum setting in:

I hear you wondering, okay but how do I switch frequencies?

Well, the best moment to choose your new vibrational frequency,

is when the momentum is very low, or when it has stopped.

When you wake up in the morning,

your built-up momentum of the previous day has stopped.

So, the best moment to start your positive train of thoughts,

is when you wake up!

Choose very consciously to think positive thoughts.

Here you can deliberately stay for 17 seconds with that serving thought, that thought that comes from who-you-really-are.

The law of attraction will bring you a new positive thought and when you keep up staying with those thoughts, you’ll find yourself on a high vibrational frequency.

A frequency where you’ll see solutions,

where you’ll feel connected to your source,

where you’ll feel able,

where you’ll meet positive people,Because, when you feel good, you’ll radiate that vibration,

you’ll attract things that vibrate on this same frequency.

This is also an ideal state to express your affirmations.

When you feel good,

when you vibrate on a high frequency,

and you’ll affirm what you want in life,

the universe will bring you tools, people, ideas, … to realize your dreams.

The Universe knows what you feel so that is why it is important to be on a ‘good-feeling-frequency’ when you express your affirmations.

When you are feeling down and you rattle off your affirmations, the Universe won’t hear what you are saying, it will sense that you are feeling down and bring you similar things.

So, yes affirmations work, but make sure while saying them, you already feel the joy you will feel when you’ve reached what you are affirming.

Can you switch frequencies during the day?

Yes, but it will be a bit harder.

As you are vibrating on a low frequency,

you’ll have to focus very consciously on going to this higher frequency.

You’ll have to, actively,

stop your negative thoughts, so that the momentum comes to a halt, switch your train of thoughts to positive ones,

keep your attention on those thoughts coming from your source,

so that the Law of Attraction can bring new ones,

keep it up so that you can reach and cross the threshold of 68 seconds.

Here you can build new momentum.

Keep it up and stay on that new, higher frequency.

Once you see, feel, good things coming your way,

it gets easier and easier to stay on this high vibrational frequency.

Once you’ve been there for a certain time,

even when you ‘fall down’ to a lower frequency again,

you’ll recognize it and you’ll know what to do to ‘climb up’ again.

The more you are aware of what you are thinking,

the more you can choose what you think,

hence, how you feel.

My invitation to you all:

Become aware of your thoughts,

Practice thinking positive thoughts when you wake up,

Stay with them,

Go through the day on the frequency of solutions!

Don’t be frustrated when you ‘fall down’ on a lower frequency again, just recognize it,

and then actively focus on getting ‘up’ again.

The more you practice it, the easier it becomes.

Good luck and enjoy!!


“Don’t be afraid of perfection,

you’ll never reach it anyway!”

I really like this one 🙂

What a relief,

what a reassurance!

Finally, we can:

Stop trying to be perfect,

Stop being too harsh on ourselves (and others),

Stop being disappointed, all the time,

Stop being angry with ourselves when we did not handle a situation perfectly, (as if there were such a thing …)

I know it is hard to let go of that thought of perfection.

I think most of us were raised in the atmosphere of:

You can never work hard enough,

Your results can always improve,

Always focusing on where you failed instead of praising all the things you did good,

Making sure people won’t talk -badly- about you, …

I think you can picture the situation.

And I do not say this to judge the people who raised us, no, not at all.

They only did it out of love,

out of fear that otherwise our lives would be (too) hard.

No, I only mention this so that you’re able to recognize when you’re still behaving:

in a way to please people,

in a way of trying to be perfect,

out of fear of not being good enough.

It is time to stop this behavior.

Don’t be mad when you still slip up from time to time.

No, just recognize it, name it, and let it go.

Move on with the intention of being kind to yourself.

You are good enough!

We all live our lives trying to make the best of it,

trying to help out where we can.

So, we are doing great.

No sane person lives his life saying:

I’ll work as poorly as possible,

I’ll hurt as many people as possible,

I’ll be as hateful as possible.

No, I do not believe that.

We all try our best, in our own various ways.

I’ll go even further and say: even if you think people behave in this atrocious way: think for a minute why this could be. Mostly it is because they are lacking love, approval, kindness from others.

Being nice to them already makes a world of difference.

To them and to you.

My invitation to you all this week is:

Stop looking for perfection

in your own life and in other people’s lives!

Stop looking for where you/people failed, for where you/they

messed up.

Stop trying to impress people,

just do the best YOU can and sometimes reward will follow and sometimes not, that’s okay. Your reward is that you did the best you could, you helped out in the way you were able to.

Stop living a life thinking what other people may or may not say about it.

It’s your life!

Only you know how to live it!

Make it as beautiful as possible.

When you live from your heart:

you’ll automatically do your best,

you’ll be kind,

you’ll be loving.

And that is all that matters.

Your heart is never wrong.

You are doing great.

You are perfectly imperfect.

And so is everyone around you.

Thank you all for reading my imperfect blogs!



How much energy, how much focus, do we give gratitude in our life?

How often do we feel grateful and actually realize this?

How often do we pause and look for all the things in our lives for which we can/should be grateful?

The saying goes:

“it is not happy people who are grateful,

it is grateful people who are happy.”

I believe this to be so true!

Make time to actually see, list, all the blessings in your life.

And yes, you’ll have to pause first because most of the time,

we just rush through life without even realizing what we are blessed with.

We are all very quick to see what annoys us, what goes wrong, what we would like to see different in our life.

But flip this reality around and look for:

what goes right,

what is great,

what we do have,

what we experience: friendship, love, kindness, beautiful nature…

what we are not lacking,

what problems we do NOT have: we are not suffering in the cold, we are not hungry, we do not have to sleep outside, we are not at war, …

just look for it and you’ll find more than you realize right now.

Studies have shown that:

people who write down, every night before they go to bed:

at least three things they are grateful for, things that made them smile, things that made them feel happy, blessed,

are happier in life, are more satisfied with their lives.

It is so simple, but so effective!

It only takes:

a notebook,

a pen,

2 minutes of your time before you put your head down.

Not only will you be happier in life,

you’ll also sleep better because you’ve put positives thoughts in your mind just before you go to sleep.

You will be on a higher vibrational frequency and therefor you’ll steer away from negativity: you’ll worry less, fret less, have less turmoil in your head, … all those things that keep you from sleeping soundly and peacefully.

The better rested you are, the better you’ll feel the next day.

The more energized you feel:

the better you will be able to handle anything that life throws at you,

the less you’ll let problems get to you,

the less you’ll see things as problems,

the more relaxed, the more at ease you’ll go through the day, through your life.

My invitation to you all this week is:

Make time to become still.


Put your hands on your heart.

Think about all the things that go well in your life,

(yes, even in the shittiest times in your life, you can find some positive things, some things – no matter how small- to be grateful for),

Feel gratitude.

Express your gratitude.

Share this heartwarming feeling.

Once you’ll feel how blessed you are,

It’ll become a natural thing to do and

you’ll become:

a person who is kind,

a person who helps out,

a person who understands that:

we are all connected,

we are all one,

we are all at home on this beautiful planet.

Be grateful and ‘infect’ people with your kindness.

Be the reason people believe in the goodness of people.

Help out all the living creatures here on earth.

Respect nature in any way you can.

Respect the wildlife.

So that we can ALL feel blessed for being part of this amazing place we are allowed to call home.

Thank you all for reading me.


“Minimalism is removing the things in your life,

that remove you from your life”

This is just one of the many teachings from my mentor Courtney Carver. (thank you, Courtney, many blessings to you!)

What is removing YOU from YOUR life?

Do you know?

What does your life look like right now?

Do you know?

What do you want your life to look like?

Do you know?

The first thing we all need to do, is have a good look at our lives and

realize what is going on right now.

We first have to know the reality before we can evaluate what is okay and what needs to be changed in order to have the life we crave.

Become very still,

put your hands on your heart,

listen to the real you, to who you really are and

know, feel how you really want to live.

Create a picture in your mind of this life,

make it very real,

take your time to really consider, to really know,

what is important to you and what not.

Once you’ve got a clear image,

Visualize this over and over again in your mind,

write it down,

make a mood-board,

live this life in your mind before you go to sleep.

The more you’ve ‘seen’ and ‘felt’ your future life,

the more it is already embedded in your subconscious mind.

As Dr. Joe Dispenza puts it:

you can remember your future!

Because you’ve repeated the movie over and over again in your mind,

your subconscious mind thinks it has already happened and so you can ‘remember’ it.

Now that you know what you want in your future life,

look at what you need to adjust in your current life to get to live that future life.

What do you need to stop doing, right now?

What is not helping you to have that future life?

What do you need to eliminate?

What do you need to add?

Be very critical to what is present in your life, in your home,

that is keeping you away from the life you want.

Do you want a healthier life?

What are you eating, drinking?

How much sleep do you get?

How much exercise?

How do you spend your free moments?

Do you want more time?

What does your agenda look like?

How much stuff do you own, do you need to clean, store, insure …?

What are you saying ‘yes’ to, when actually you want to say ‘no’?

Do you want more money?

What do you spend your money on?

What do you own that you don’t need: sell it!

What do you buy because other people say it is cool to have?

What do you buy just because you feel you need to, in order to belong?

Stop spending money on things that are not worth it.

Do you want better relationships?

How harshly are you criticizing other people?

How realistic are your expectations?

Do you hold grudges?

Are you blaming and shaming?

How tolerant are you?

Do you want to feel more inner peace?

How still are your moments of stillness?

How quiet is your mind?

How much time do you spend meditating?

You see,

in creating the life that you want,

you need to adjust your current life.

And it is almost always ‘Less’:Do less,

Have less,

Spend less,

Worry less,

Eat less,

Blame less,

Complain less,

Spend less time on technology,

Remove the things in your life that remove you from your life.

Once the excess removed,

you’ll have so much more:

more joy,

more time,

more health,

more money,

more happiness,

more inner peace,

more life,

and you’ll feel … you finally belong.

You’ll belong where it matters,

you’ll belong to you,

you’ll come home to who you are,

you’ll come home to your heart.

My invitation to you all this week is:

Analyze your current life,

Create your future life in your mind,

List the things you need to remove,

List the things you need to start doing differently,

Adjust your current life in order to have that future life!

Good luck and



Fear comes in all forms and shapes.

Fear is what is holding us back.

Fear is what gives us sleepless nights.

Fear is what makes us insecure.

Fear is what makes us feel unworthy.

Fear is what makes us sick in the long run.

When we live in fear,

we vibrate on a very low frequency and on that low vibrational frequency we feel disconnected from our soul, from our dreams, from the Universe, from all possibilities.

I think we can all agree on the fact that is time to let go of fear so that we can start living on a higher frequency, on a frequency of possibilities, on a frequency of joy.

Courtney Carver from ‘Be more with less’ identified the following forms of fear.

One of the fears is FODO

Fear Of Disappointing Others

Especially people pleasers have this fear.

People pleasers are afraid

to let people down,

to hurt people,

to disagree with people,

to say no,

to set boundaries.

But in fact, the only remedy to get rid of that fear is setting boundaries.

Because setting boundaries makes it clear for everyone what to expect, hence it is easier to say no when you feel you need to.

People won’t be disappointed that easily when they know what to expect.

And yes, there will always be people who will still be disappointed,

but ask yourself:

why is that?

Aren’t they the ones who were taking advantage of you not having any boundaries?

It has nothing to do with you, they were setting boundaries for you, but it is not up to them to do that. You are the one who gets to set those boundaries.

Be very clear on:

what you will allow in your life and what not,

what gives you energy and what not.

That is how:

You will respect yourself more,

You will feel better about yourself,

You will feel less depleted because you don’t say yes anymore when actually you wanted to say no.

And trust me, everybody will benefit from it!

Another fear we all know is FOMO:

Fear Of Missing Out

We want to know about everything.

We want to be everywhere.

We want to respond to everything.

We want to participate in everything.

We want to belong.

We want to be noticed.

We want to be liked.

We run around like headless chickens and we miss out on the most important thing:

our own life.

The remedy for this fear is being present.

Live fully in the moment,

Notice what is around you,

Notice who is here with you.

Stop mulling over the past,

stop worrying about the future,

live in the here and now.

Listen so you actually hear,

Look so you actually see,



feel what is here in this very moment.

Cherish the now.

This is something we need to learn.

By becoming still,

by breathing consciously,

by focusing on what is around you,

you will be able to learn to be present.

And by living in the present, you will be living your own life.

Another big fear is

The Fear Of Trusting Yourself

We are always second guessing ourselves.

We are so quick to believe the other one might be right.

We are unsure about:

who we are,

what we want,

what we can expect from life,

what we can say no to,

what dreams we are allowed to pursue.

The more insecure we are about ourselves,

the harder it will be to learn to set boundaries and to live in the present.

Get rid of that fear of trusting yourself by

becoming quiet,

taking a step back,

breathing to relax yourself, to get out of your head and back into your body,

putting your hands on your heart and learning to listen to it.

The more you practice this little ritual,

the easier it will become to be quiet,

to listen to your heart.

After a while,

you will be able to hear what your heart is telling you,

you will know what is good for you,

you will know who you are,

you will know what to do,

you will know how to be present,

you will know how to set boundaries,

you will trust yourself.

My invitation to you all this week is:

Look at what is holding you back.

Look at what you do out of fear of missing out,

out of fear of not being loved.

Learn to connect with your inner voice again,

listen to your heart,

trust and love yourself.

You will be happier, more relaxed, more grounded, more embodied.

You’ll feel more energized.

You’ll be living on that higher vibrational frequency, the frequency of possibilities, of joy, of feeling connected.

That is where you’ll live your life,

That is where you’ll be you.

People will feel that and they will benefit from your happiness too, because a happy, grounded person is kinder, more loving, more tolerant, sees opportunities, smiles…

Let go of your fears and shine!

Thank you all for reading me!


Up to 60 000 thoughts enter our mind every day!


That takes up a lot of our energy, doesn’t it?!

If not all!

Sometimes we feel exhausted,

Sometimes we feel drained,

sometimes we feel heavy,

sometimes we see no light at the end of the tunnel,

just because we can’t get our mind to stop racing.

Thoughts enter,

swirl around,

keep coming back like a boomerang,

seem to multiply every split second!

You feel as if your head is going to explode.

You feel as if the thoughts are in control.

And they are!

As long as you don’t say STOP:

they WILL rule your mind,

your emotions,


your LIFE.

It is up to you to put an end to their reign,

because they will never abdicate!

First say out loud:


Repeat it as many times as necessary to stop that train of thoughts coming in and swirling around like leaves in a storm.

The moment you feel they’ve stopped for a second:

You take over.

You start deciding which ones can stay and which ones must go.

You ask yourself:

What thoughts are helping me?

What thoughts are supporting me?

What thoughts are useful to move on?

What thoughts make me happy?

What thoughts are about things I can actually change?

Work with those thoughts.

Only let those thoughts stay.

When useless, negative, draining thoughts try to enter your mind again:

thank them for showing up,

then tell them you don’t need them anymore,

and give them permission to leave your head,

say ‘bye’.

You may think this is stupid,

you may think this is childish,

I don’t care:

It works!

You have to acknowledge the useless thoughts first before letting them go.

Because pushing thoughts away,

will only make them come back.

The more you push them away, the harder they will come back.

That’s why,

you have to recognize them,

tell them you don’t need them anymore,

in order to let them go.

You get to decide what thoughts you let in.

Work with,

Give energy to:

thoughts that are serving you:

thoughts that make you take action,

thoughts that help you move forward,

thoughts that keep you vibrating on a higher frequency,

thoughts that keep your energy on a high level

thoughts that expand your heart.

Start today!

It will take practice and a lot of determination

because thoughts are stubborn little buggers.

I know!

They keep

coming back,

challenging you,

testing you,

begging you to let them in again.

Be firm!

Say ‘no thank you’!

Train yourself in recognizing the difference between:

positive, action-oriented thoughts

and negative, energy-draining thoughts.

Welcome the first and

thank and dismiss the latter.

Don’t give up,

Keep training yourself!

After a while,

you’ll become very skilled in choosing the helpful thoughts.

My invitation to you all this week is:

Check in with your thoughts.

Start seeing the difference between thoughts.

Train yourself in reacting to them as we said before:

Welcome the positive, action-oriented thoughts

Decline the negative, energy-draining thoughts.

Give yourself the peace and quiet of a restful mind.

The more selective you become with your thoughts,

the more energy you will feel flowing through your body,

the happier you’ll feel,

the more peaceful you’ll feel.

Where focus goes, energy flows.

Focus on the positive thoughts and the energy will flow freely.

Thank you all for reading me.


People often ask me:

How can I feel happier?

How can I feel less tired?

How can I stop feeling hurt?

How can I stop my mind going crazy?

Well, it is quite simple but not always easy to accomplish.

As long as we believe that what other people think of us,

is true,

is important,

we will never be happy, or at peace.

Because there are so many people out there,

people with their own stories,

their own beliefs,

their own battles to fight.

What they say to you:

is triggered by their memories,

is a result of how they are feeling right now,

is a venting of their frustration.

It has less to with you than with them.

So, what you can do is:

listen to them from your heart,

know they are not perfect, and neither are you,

know you can never please everyone.

All we can do, is:

be a good person,

do the best we can

and accept that:

we can never be perfect.

the world is not perfect,

people are not perfect,

This is how you are taking a step to being at peace, to being happy.

Knowing that what people think of you, is their business, not yours.

That will help your mind stop racing and going over and over that same conversation.

It takes away all your energy and it gets you nowhere.

So, stop it, it’s useless!

Just breathe and let your mind go quiet.

Once the mind quiets down,

there is room for other thoughts.

Thoughts we get to choose:

Positive thoughts,

warm memories,



The saying goes:

“It is not happy people who are grateful,

But it is grateful people who are happy!”

Try it!

It really is true!

Make a list of all the things that go well in your life!

Make a list of all the little things that made your day more beautiful, even if it was only for a brief moment.

The more you make those lists,

the easier it will become to find things to be grateful for.

The more grateful you become, the happier you’ll be!

Stop wasting your energy on stuff that gets you nowhere:

Arguing, competing, convincing other people of ‘you being right’, reliving your past…

Stop letting your energy get drained by useless stuff like:

watching garbage on TV,

reading stuff that makes you unhappy,

eating junk.

Instead, make sure your energy level stays high by:

looking for the positive in every situation,

eating healthy stuff,

sleeping enough,

going outside and breathing the fresh air,

getting your body in shape.

You see:

all the things I have mentioned are in your hands.

It is not rocket science,

It is not difficult to understand,

It is just something YOU need to start doing.

I know, Rome wasn’t built in one day either.

Go slow and steady.

Make a plan and stick to it.

Know why you want to change your habits:

think about the questions you keep asking!

If you want change,

If you want other results in your life,

You’ll have to start doing things differently.

Einstein said it so many years ago:

“Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and hoping for a different result….”

You can’t hope for a happier, brighter, healthier life by doing what you’ve always done.


Focus on what you want, instead of focusing on what you do not want in your life.

Imagine how it will feel like once you’ve reached that state of:

being happy with what you’ve achieved,

feeling lighter, more energetic,

feeling healthy,

accepting who you are,

being grateful for what life brings you,

seeing everybody as people with the same struggles as you,

knowing that how we look at the world, determines what we will see.

My invitation to you all this week is:

Get a clear vision of how you want your life to look like

and make a plan of all the steps you’re going to take to get there.

Focus on the progress,

Focus on what you’ve achieved each day.

We all waver,

We all fall back on old habits now and then,

But don’t be harsh on yourself,


Get back to your plan and move forward from there.

The main thing is that you keep moving forward,

in little steps and now and then by taking a big step!

You can do it if you want to!

Know why you want it,

Motivate yourself,

Reward yourself.

Be grateful for every step you’ve taken.

Be grateful that you have been given the chance to live in this beautiful world!


Feel the difference between saying:

this happened TO me


this happened FOR me

When saying something happened TO you:

you already give all your power away,

you’re a victim of circumstances,

it is out of your hands,

it is something you can’t do anything about.

When saying something happened FOR you:

you claim power over the situation,

you act upon what is thrown at you,

you decide how you will react,

you take what is given and

look for ways to create an opportunity

to become better because of it,

to grow,

to learn:

you embrace it.

You may think this is absurd.

You may think you could never grow from a horrible situation.

You may think there are only 2 options:

Either you just surrender, do nothing, think it is beyond your control.


You may think that hitting back, getting angry, blaming and complaining, giving them a taste of their own medicine, is the way to handle a situation, is the way to change people, ‘make’ people respect you, love you.

But is it?

Is it really?

Are those the only possible reactions?

I don’t think so,

to me, those options are absurd.

They don’t get you anywhere, it’s like a dog chasing its own tail.

Here is what can bring you closer to a solution, to an improvement:

take a step back from the situation,

take yourself out of the equation

and look at what is happening from a more detached perspective.

Make a conscious choice:

to look for other points of view,

to look for other possibilities.

If you want to change the way you feel about it,

if you want to feel the gain and not the gap,

(cfr Gap or Gain by Dan Sullivan),

you’ll have to take steps to start feeling that gain.

Because if you keep comparing your situation to a perfect situation, to an ideal, you’ll always feel the gap, because you can never reach perfection. (If you want to do something perfectly, you’ve already made your first mistake…)

But when you put your ego on hold,

when you start looking for tiny steps you can take to move forward,

to go beyond the negative,

you’ll notice yourself changing,

you’ll feel yourself shifting from a person something happened to,

to a person something happened for.

You’ll take the situation as an opportunity to learn,

to grow, to become a better person.

And then when you look back and you notice the progress,

the change in your behavior,

you’ll feel the gain!

My invitation to you all is:

Get out of the gap.

Look at how you can take steps to create a positive outcome.

Know it is up to you to take those steps.

Don’t wait for something or someone to change.

Create your own present.

You’ll benefit more from it than you can ever imagine!

Because it is your present mood, it is how you feel right now,

that will determine how your memories will look like, how you’ll look at what happened.

We reinterpret our memories in light of how we feel right now.

If you look at what you’ve achieved, you will ‘remember’ the same past differently than if you focus on where you failed.

If you focus on the good in a relationship, you’ll see it as a fine relationship.

If you focus on the bad in that same relationship, you’ll experience it as a toxic relationship.

Remember where focus goes, energy flows.

Therefore, always look for the positive, create opportunities and the situation will improve!

Thank you all for reading me!



Do you want to heal your soul?


Do you want to let your heart stay shattered?





Those are the feelings that heal our body and soul.

Those are the only actions that will make us feel better, happier.




only make us bitter.

The choice is yours:

Do you want to heal?

Do you want to feel happy again?

Do you want to smile again?


Do you want to hate for the rest of your life?

Do you want to feel angry all the time?

Do you want to feel as a victim, blaming someone else for your misfortune?

Every problem, every hurtful event, every challenge that comes on your path, is there for a reason.

We don’t always know what that reason is, and that makes it hard for us, humans, to understand that it makes us grow.

Sometimes it takes a long time before we are able to grow,

before we are able to see the positive that this situation is giving us.

But even if we don’t know, don’t understand,

why we have to go through those hardships,

we do know that it gives us a choice:

will we become a better person because of it?

or will we become a bitter person?

Forgiving does not mean you condone what the other person did,

it means that you can let it go,

so that you can have inner peace again.

Take charge of your own emotions,

find you inner strength again!

You hold the key to your own happiness.

The moment you give that key to someone else,

you give your power away,

you become dependent on others,

they get to decide when you can feel happy or not.

That makes you very vulnerable, very unstable, very powerless,

because you’ll never know how they will make you feel today.


It’s time to:

claim your power,

claim your feelings,

claim control of your life again.


By forgiving.

By being compassionate towards those who hurt you. Only unhappy people lash out, once you can see that, it’s easier to feel compassion!

By understanding that everybody has their own story. Once you realize everybody has their own battles they need to fight, you can go a little easier on people.

By doing so,

you will feel lighter,

you will feel better.

You will feel more energy flowing again,

you will feel more powerful again, as in being able to handle things life throws at you.

Life suddenly will seem a lot brighter, easier, even if the situation has not changed!

No amount of hate, criticism, negative feelings,

has ever made anyone feeling better again,

has ever healed anyone!

On the contrary, those negative feelings make you sick.

They diminish your energy so that you literally become ill after a while.

Only love, kindness, forgiveness heals, makes you healthy.If you think forgiving is difficult, just consider the end result.

Which of the following results do you prefer?

Feeling sick, bitter, unhappy, powerless?


Feeling healthy, happy, powerful?

That’s all for this week: compassion, forgiveness, understanding.

Some interesting thoughts to ponder this time of year when we talk of peace and merriness, new beginnings, best wishes, good intentions.

Make it a truly happy and warm Christmas!

Thank you all for reading me!


No matter what the circumstances are,

you can always (re-)act from your higher self.

Stop blaming everything and everyone-but-yourself,

for how you live your life.

We are so used to living from our ego, from our protective self,

that we tend to forget we have a say in how we act and react in life.

First of all, we all have an ego, aka a protective self,

and that is okay.

We just should not let it rule our lives.

In times where we still needed to survive in harsh, wild environments,

we needed that protective self to keep us alive:

we needed to be on guard all the time,

we needed to expect danger,

or we did not survive.

Nowadays, there is less (hardly any)

life-threatening danger nearby anymore.

That means:

we can relax more,

we can enjoy beauty and positive things,

we can be kind and caring towards other people,

we can be trusting,

without fearing for our lives.

Another aspect of how our ego, our ‘protective self ‘comes into existence is,

while being a child:

people (parents, teachers, family, neighbors, …) fill our ‘protective self’ with:

all possible warnings,

their experiences,

their values,

their fears,

their rules,

their rights and wrongs.

But those may not be what YOU need in life.

Take a closer look at what your reactions in life are and whether they make you happy or not.

In a lot of situations, you regret almost immediately what you said or how you reacted.


imagine how you would like to have reacted,

imagine what you would like to have said.

It is time to

thank your protective self for ‘keeping you alive’ all those years,

but at the same time to say goodbye to it.

Say -or even write it down-:

“I don’t need my ego anymore and from now on,

I will start living from my higher self.”

What is this higher self?

This ‘higher self ‘shows you:

who you are in your heart,

what your values represent,

what you dream of,

what life can look like when you are living from a place of love, joy, possibilities, creativity, peace, satisfaction.

Living from your protective self means:

Trying to control life and its circumstances,

Wanting, demanding,

Feeling afraid,

Feeling resentment,

Feeling alone,

Feeling helpless, …

Living from you higher self means:

Going with what is,

Giving, sharing,

Feeling alive,

Feeling grateful,

Feeling connected,

Feeling powerful, …

You see: the choice is yours.

All you have to do is choose which voice you will listen to.

As the protective self is very well developed by repetition throughout all these years,

it is ‘easier’ to hear this voice, as it is still loud in your head.

But when you no longer want to feel how your ego is making you feel,

and you want to start getting a grip, feeling alive, feeling abundant, feeling on your path:

then I would suggest you let the voice of the ‘higher self’ get louder and louder.

Listening to it will make your life so much brighter, lighter, kinder, more joyful.

You will feel confident, content, trusting, forgiving, protected, connected.

At first, this knee jerk reaction from your protective self will always come up immediately when facing a situation.

Therefore, I invite you to train yourself to hear your higher self.

Ask yourself:

what would my ‘higher self’ do in this situation?

After a while the voices (of the protective and the higher self) will become equally loud.

The more you keep listening and trying to hear the voice of possibilities, of kindness,

the easier you will be able to hear it.

Eventually, it will be the only one you still hear.

Imagine what your life can look like!

It’s like the story of the Native American boy who asked his grandfather how he could become a good, wise, kind man like his grandfather.

The grandfather told him there lived 2 wolves inside of him: a kind one and a vicious one.

The boy asked: which one is the strongest?

The grandfather said: the one I feed.

My invitation to you all this week is:

Recognize, and thank your protective self, then say goodbye to it!

Do not feed it any longer.

Welcome the voice of your heart,

the voice of your higher self, feed it, listen to it and enjoy life on that higher vibration.

The circumstances are what they are,

choose wisely how you react to them.

It makes all the difference in the world!

To you


To the people around you.

Remember the law of attraction: what you send out, you attract!