Going through life is like traveling with a back pack.

Everything you keep,

everything you put in that backpack,

makes it a lot heavier to carry.

At first, we don’t notice it,

the load is still light to carry,

we are not tired yet.

But the longer we walk,

and the more we hold on to things,

the heavier the burden becomes.

We get tired,

we feel our energy waver

and we don’t understand why.

Why does life ‘suddenly’ seem so much harder to bear?

How come we can’t cope with life the way we used to?

We are puzzled,

We ‘fight’ it because no, we are not weak….

And yet, we feel our energy draining even more.

Let’s take a look at what we carry in our ‘back pack’.

Do we really need everything we hold on to?

No!!!!

On the contrary,

The more you let go of,

The lighter life will feel.

Try it, really do.

You’ll be amazed by how much you can let go of.

I am not just talking about the physical stuff, but also about the emotional stuff.

We carry so much hurt, anger, resentment, frustration and for what?

What good does that do you?

None!

It eats away all your energy.

Just consider for a moment this question one of the students once asked their professor in the context of ‘how heavy is the stuff we carry around?’.

The professor asked them a question in return:

“Is holding a glass of water with your arm straight up a heavy task to do?”

They pondered upon their answer and came up with:

not if you hold it for a minute,

maybe, for some, not even when they have to hold it up for like 15 minutes, or for half an hour for the real die-hards.

But if you have to keep it up for hours, days, …., weeks, years:

the task becomes impossible.

So, everything you carry with you,

becomes heavy,

unbearable even,

at one point.

Have you reached that point yet?

Do you want to reach that point?

Or will you start letting go today?

Let go of all the clutter in your house, in your car.

Just keep what you need and what you absolutely adore.

Stuff you keep to show others,

Stuff you think you are supposed to have, supposed to use,

but you actually do not feel you need them:

Let it all go, get rid of it.

Clear out your cabinets, your rooms, your closet, …

Let the air enter your house, enter all of your rooms.

The less stuff you have, the lighter it feels,

the more the energy can flow through.

The same goes for your body:

drink water, eat fruits and vegetables.

Make your body clean so that here too,

the energy can pass freely.

The hardest part is letting go of the stuff in your head:

it is really simple, but not easy, to do:

you have to make a choice!

“Do I want to spent another minute

feeling bad?

feeling down?

feeling drained?”

Yes?

Ok, just continue the way you are doing right now. The choice is yours.

No?

Then let go of all that the stuff that makes you feel this way.

Stop thinking about the stuff that drains you.

Start thinking about things that lift you up,

things that put a smile on your face.

Is it easy?

In the beginning absolutely not!

We are addicted to our negative thoughts,

we keep them going around and around in our head.

We know them so well it feels like home.

So, we wallow in them.

But beware!

They don’t make you happy!!!!

Change your thoughts!

Time after time, again and again.

If you feel you’re going down that well-known path again,

Change your course!

The more you practice it, the easier it will become.

Trust me, you can switch your thoughts to what makes you feel energized.

You don’t remember what makes you feel happy?

Go into nature,

Sit in a quiet place,

Put your hands on your heart and breathe.

Just sit there and listen to the silence.

Do this every day until you get in touch

with your true self again,

with the person you really are,

with the person who started life with a light backpack and gathered all that stuff throughout the years.

Unload your backpack,

Look very closely at what was in it and decide what you want to keep carrying around every day.

Only keep what is good for you,

what gives you energy.

This is my invitation for you this week:

Unload all the things you hold on to,

Look at them,

Choose with your heart what you are going to keep and what you will let go of.

It will take some time.

It will feel painful sometimes, even when you want to let go of things that make you unhappy. (because it feels so familiar)

But remember letting go is difficult one time, holding on to something painful keeps hurting day after day, year after year.

You’ve gathered stuff over the years, so take your time to unload.

Don’t rush, go at your own pace but keep moving forward.

Let go of something every day.

Even letting go of a small thing keeps you in the right mindset of clearing out the clutter (physical, emotional).

Once you continue your path with a lighter burden,

you’ll feel so happy, so relieved, so refreshed.

Enjoy the journey!

Thank you all for reading me!

Katrien

www.lifecoachwomen.be